So I recently found out that my uncle, my father's brother, is going into kidney failure. To make a long story short, he has been battling brain cancer for two years now, at one point it was almost taken care of, but came back. So it should seem like a non issue that Dad will give his brother (if he is a match) a kidney, right? Family politics are not to simple. Let's just say my father's family are less than savory people. They are the type of snobbish, holier than thou people that you can't wait for the family event to end because they are venomous. My Dad has three siblings, two sisters and one brother. But the sisters would never, even if they matched, donate one theirs. What makes things more complicated and angering, is that my Dad has done so much for his family, but his siblings have done nothing. To put it simply, his siblings abandoned their parents, refusing to help, when my grandfather was going downhill with Alzheimers and my grandmother couldn't physically care for him. This was happening while my father was active duty in the military. So he and I moved my grandparents close by, so we could care for them. Did I mention their finances were in ruin? One of the sisters (who lived in the same town as my grandparents, yet couldn't be bothered to help them) had been skimming money from them. Real charmer, huh? This left my grandparents with almost nothing to retire on. I don't know how he did it, but Dad worked magic with their finances and my surviving grandmother has been able to live comfortably on what little they have. My Dad became my grandfather's constant caretaker (I was away in college at the time, or I would have ) in his terminal days, bringing so much stress on himself but doing it so my grandmother didn't have to. The last time my grandmother saw her other three children was at the funeral, over three years ago. They are very well off (veterinarian, dentist, and married to a doctor), but they can't be bothered to take a weekend to visit their own mother, hardly even calling her. So my Dad's family, his brother, has done nothing in return for the family. They're takers, not givers. So it honestly makes my blood run cold knowing that my Dad might endanger his life and health to give a kidney to his parasite family. My mother and I discussed it (she is a nurse) and she even agreed with my thoughts that my uncle should go on dialysis and wait for a cadaver kidney. Especially because there is a very high chance that the chemotherapy will destroy the kidney my Dad would give him. What a useless donation, if he gave his kidney and then it failed too soon after. But this is my Dad's decision. And his moral compass points due north. I can only support his choice. I just hope he doesn't have to give his kidney, that maybe his sisters will be struck with a brief moment of selflessness and instead offer theirs.