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How could he do this to me?!?!

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by TheDuckCrew, Mar 28, 2009.

  1. TheDuckCrew

    TheDuckCrew Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 21, 2009
    Connecticut
    My parents agreed to hatching our duck's eggs and i was so excited. we needed more girls so they said we could keep some once we know the sex. but today when i asked my dad if he could bring me to the hardware store to start working on the incubator, he said he doesn't want to hatch them anymore. he said thats its too much work. too bad i'm the only one that takes care of the ducks!! i am so mad at him. we are always getting into fights and i was just thinking he was getting better and then he goes and does this!?!?! he knows how much they mean to me. they mean everything. my ducks are my babies. ugh i can't even express how mad i am! i was already building the brooder and a pen for the babies! how could he do this? just how?! hopefully he'll be gone soon, but not soon enough. (divorce). i want him gone. i want him out of my life forever. please don't tell me i'm over-reacting. this decision wasn't just made on him changing his mind on the eggs, its about all the times he has hurt me and he has known what he is saying is killing me inside, but he says it anyways. i think i will just build the bator on my own and put it in my room. i know thats not good to disobey him, but he has given me no reason to obey him. he said yes and so did my mom. its too late now. we discussed everything and they said yes.
     
  2. farrier!

    farrier! Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 28, 2009
    Southern Illinois
    Divorce and a "bad" dad is not fun. One cost my daughter the farm, her goats and her dog.... [​IMG]
    Maybe mention to your mom you are going ahead with the incubator. It sounds like she will be the one you will be dealing with from now on. [​IMG]
    Goo luck!
     
  3. morelcabin

    morelcabin Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 8, 2007
    Ontario Canada
    It sounds like your parents have alot on thier minds right now, and hatching duck eggs has gotten low on thier priority list. I am sure that if you thought about it a bit you would find that your dad has done many many things with you, and that perhaps there have been times that he has had to change his mind. The terrible thing about divorces is that one parent seems to play the other against the kids and so forth. The fact is that they both love you, and show it in different ways.
    Just because they don't always do what you want when you want doesn't make them a bad parent. I am sure that your dad would probably not be against you doing it on your own, and he might be proud of the great job you do!
     
  4. WriterofWords

    WriterofWords Has Fainting Chickens

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    Hold your breath a sec, breath and breath out. If he's going to be gone pretty soon anyway ask your mom if she will help you. I don't know the real situation between you and your dad, none of us on here do unless they are offline friends of your family so we can't tell you what he has and hasn't done for you. Just look to the future, put the past behind you, live the present to the best of your ability, and see what you can get done without his help. Calm down, look him in the eye, tell him this: You gave me your word that we would do this together, I would like to know when you changed your mind, why you changed your mind, and why you didn't tell me. I feel as though you are trying to hurt me, and I would like to understand why.

    If he won't answer your honest, calm, and straightforward questions, it is probably a power play against your mother, not you. Too many adults will try and hurt the soon to be ex spouse through the children and don't realize until much later how badly they hurt their relationship with thier children. Belive in yourself honey, and try and be the adult in this situation and don't let yourself be hurt to badly or used to hurt either parent.
     
  5. hennypenny9

    hennypenny9 Chillin' With My Peeps

    I moved 2.5 hours away the minute I graduated high school because of frustration with a certain parent. I can totally understand. The tone of your post reminds me of some of my more memorable journal entries.

    It won't last forever, even though it may seem that way. Asking why he does something that upsets you, and dwelling on it will make you crazy. Go out with friends and vent, that always made me feel better.
     
  6. SarahBeth9394

    SarahBeth9394 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Aug 23, 2008
    Ok silly question here but why not let the ducks take care of getting those eggs hatched.
     
  7. TheDuckCrew

    TheDuckCrew Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 21, 2009
    Connecticut
    Quote:it could possibly be a power play with my mom. she was the one that said yes first and because she did, he had to go along with it. he tried to get me and my sister on his side by saying if they got divorced and we stayed with our mom, we would have to sell the ducks and my sister would have to go to community college (she is already accepted and has a scholarship to RPI, which is her dream school) after that, she couldn't even look at him. she was crying so hard because he was due home from work soon that she was shaking. she didn't eat for over a week.
     
  8. TheDuckCrew

    TheDuckCrew Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 21, 2009
    Connecticut
    Quote:yep that sounds like me. i plan on moving out right away and telling my dad i'm never coming back. thankfully, my parents are seeing lawyers now so he will be gone. when he leaves, i'll make sure to tell him he will never see me again. i'd like it that way.
     
  9. TheDuckCrew

    TheDuckCrew Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 21, 2009
    Connecticut
    Quote:they're pekins, she won't sit on them. i left them in her nest for awhile hoping she would go broody but she never did. it was bred out of them so they could lay more eggs and not waste their time trying to hatch them. i wish she would hatch them herself!
     
  10. ChickBond 007

    ChickBond 007 Licensed to Cull

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    Quote:they're pekins, she won't sit on them. i left them in her nest for awhile hoping she would go broody but she never did. it was bred out of them so they could lay more eggs and not waste their time trying to hatch them. i wish she would hatch them herself!

    I think I'd take that egg and make him an Ex-Lax cake.
     

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