My 12 yr old DSD has been on again off again "friends" with my best friends 12 yr old daughter. We have never pushed the friendship on either of them. My friend has had to put her kids back in public school this year. My DSD has not had a lot to do with this kid for a while until she went back to public school. NOW she wants to be her friend. I am close to the kid, and she told me yesterday DSD has been having her pass notes back and forth to a girl she used to be friends with, which is fine, she's a good little girl. The potential problem is she is only friends with best friends 12 year old when she wants something from her. Does anyone else see this as a potential issue or am I just crazy? Should I say anything to DSD about using people or would that be out of line?