I read a thread this morning and it made me think... Do I have a right to complain about anything? DO I have a right be get mad at DH for not helping as much as I think he should. Then I started thinking of all the things he does around the house and for our family...Here's my breakdown that shed light and made me feel kinda bad My Hubs does ALL plowing-of all 3 driveways-long driveways ALL dump runs-I put garbage outside front door he takes it from there ALL wood cutting/stacking ( for the most part) ALL repairs to house Built me and bought all my coops Spends his $ on food and bedding whenever I can't get to store Loves to create flower gardens all Spring Summer Fall for us Takes care of all my birds -8 coops-(70+) every morning ( He never wanted more than 4 birds!! and he does complain from time to time ) He picks them fresh greens and gives treats-plays with them-he'll even heat some up in Winter He will do dishes ( when in desperate need) He will cook ( when in desperate need-hes a fabulous cook) He will vacuum ( when in need) Never touches laundry haha Constantly upgrading our property Spoils our 2 girls ( 16 and 13) rotten with love and such ( They adore him ) He will grocery shop when I can't ( all though its alot of junkie stuff for himself) All mowing ( But I will because I enjoy it) Makes a good living ( we dont share accounts-long story) but if ever I need something It's mine if he has the $ Takes care of his vehicles with maintenance usually once a month he buys something for me out of nowhere just because he sits down almost every night to help DD's with math-I do all other homework-math is my weak point he's great with it! he hates sports-never watches them he does not go out to bars-only with me or his work crew from time to time he never talks on phone-unless his buddy calls from another state 1-2x a month? he is not a computer junkie-only work stuff or things he's looking to buy Everything he does is geared towards his family-not the most affectionate person ( pda's and such) but we all know he loves us because he shows in small ways and tells us... Me I get up at 5am-let girls sleep in until 5:45am stolk fires ( every morning in outdoor woodburner) let dogs out-feed/water dogs make coffee ( which I bring him every morning with a kiss on his head and wake him on my way out the door) wake my girls up and get them going for school flip load of laundry 6:30 on button get ready for work myself take my girls to school ( 2 different schools) every morning by 7am-then shoot to work myself get done work ( By 3:30-4pm) go grocery shopping and do errands for the house/animals ( usually everday) I make a good living and cover health insurance and retirement funds-pay ALL household bills and both vehicles ( he pays mortgage) I take care of ALL the girls needs inside and outside the house-sports-plays-trips etc... I get home-feed and water and chit chat and check all my birds-collect eggs-lock them in for the night stolk outdoor woodburner again let dogs out cook dinner one girl vacuum's one girl does a load of laundry or dishes I pick up all around the house to put it back in order before he walks in the door clean up after dinner put our laundry away play with dogs pass out around 8pm and watch a little Tv with family or log into BYC!! My weakness My life revolves around family first I take care of my own vehicle maintenance-I can change oil and a tire I run the bobcat and heavy machinery when he needs help If I'm leaving anything out it's because we share it-All in all, I don't think I should gripe at all?? his list looks like he does alot and he does.. I appreciate everything he does and I tell him so.. Just one question though?? How is it when he does something like cook-clean or anything domestic....I feel compelled to say THANK YOU a few times??? I never get that? There's my gripe! How does your list compare?