I can't believe some people...They make me laugh, in a sad kind of way

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  1. chubbydog811

    chubbydog811 Chillin' With My Peeps

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    This is more of a vent (sort of) than a rant...
    There is A LOT more behind this, but in short:
    We have a small boarding/lesson barn (horses). We recently lost a boarder, mainly because her kid lied to her parents about me (the trainer) and they moved their horse down the road. They left on bad terms when then shorted us money that was supposed to be paid (in their signed contract) for not giving us notice that they were leaving, then changed their pick-up date to an earlier day without telling us (lying to their new trainer that this was ok with us). After that, they came back scrounging for something that got misplaced - meaning their kid is very irresponsible and didn't put her stuff back. EVER. She called, but didn't leave a message, and just showed up. God only knows where it ended up(luckily my mom was home at the time, and didn't allow them in the barn).

    Anyway...Now that you have a little background...
    I walk my dogs every night after I am done with evening chores - this is usually before said old boarder drives home from her new barn. So tonight I was running a little later than usual - I moved horse fencing around for grazing, and left an hour later than I normally do. I'm on my way back to the house, and guess who drives by? Old boarder. I don't have a problem with that. I mean, obviously they are going to drive by, the other barn is right down the road from here..it was her actions that did it for me...
    She was classy enough to flip me off on her way by (and probably stuck her tongue out too, that's what it looked like anyway...Should give you a better idea of who I'm dealing with). Seriously, who does that?

    Even better, she is teaching these "wrong" behaviors to her 2 daughters (teenager, and one is a little younger than that). Just what we need more of in this world.

    As a note: I have no need to bother with people like this. I don't encourage her by doing it back, and I don't go out of my way to screw with her, so why does she feel the need to act like a dumb teenager and do that to me?

    Am I the only one that would be bothered by this? I really didn't (and still don't) have a problem with them - I'm not holding a grudge anyway. Why do they think they have the right to flip me off when I'm minding my own business, in my own neighborhood?
     
  2. Rusty Hills Farm

    Rusty Hills Farm Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Am I the only one that would be bothered by this? I really didn't (and still don't) have a problem with them - I'm not holding a grudge anyway. Why do they think they have the right to flip me off when I'm minding my own business, in my own neighborhood?

    In the nutshell: They know they did wrong and this is their way of justifying it to themselves. If they had clear consciences they would not feel the need to do anything at all.

    JMO

    Rusty​
     
  3. Rhett&SarahsMom

    Rhett&SarahsMom Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 8, 2008
    because some people truly suck. I see it all the time. And it scares me. Even worse? These kids will find other kids just like them. So then they will become a pack. And treat the nicer kids, who also tend to gather together. .. like poop.

    Respect for others as well as all life and property is taught from birth from the parents. This woman obviously lacks respect and class.
    Ignore her. The new place will realize soon what has moved in. And you will be the better for it.
     
  4. mulewagon

    mulewagon Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Arrgh! Well, on the bright side, sometimes it's good to lose a customer... [​IMG]
     
  5. chubbydog811

    chubbydog811 Chillin' With My Peeps

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    That's actually what I was thinking Rusty. They have a dirty conscience.

    My parents made sure to teach me responsibility and respect for people, animals, and "things". I will be 22 next week, and even at my age, I respect anyone who respects me. I don't talk back to my elders (eh, maybe my father, but that is a different story there), I know how to take care of my stuff, and take responsibility if it gets damaged because of my wrong doing (I remember when I was 9, I was borrowing my trainer's bridle, since I didn't have my own tack yet. I was out on a trail ride, and the buckle on the nose band broke - it was a really old bridle as it was and already falling apart. I brought it back, as sorry as I could be and crying because I felt bad. This kid on the other hand left her saddle uncovered, the barn cat used it to jump up into the loft, and scratched it. BRAND NEW SADDLE. She lied to her mum that the cat pulled off the cover -I was there the night before when she DIDN'T put it back on- and blamed me and my cats for it.)
    Ya, awesome...I do blame the parents. The parents are supposed to act like parents, and TEACH them right from wrong, not try to be their best friend. (just my opinion by the way)
    Of course I know it will come back and bite her, so I have no reason to retaliate. It's not my battle. She can do all she wants to get my attention, but in the end, she comes out looking like the bad guy.
     
  6. chubbydog811

    chubbydog811 Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Quote:We were VERY happy they left! Their horse was a monster - no ground manners, destroyed fencing - that they never paid to replace-, and trashed her stall every night. They also INSISTED that we bed her at least 6" deep every day. Uh, no.
     
  7. RJ3

    RJ3 Out Of The Brooder

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    Sucky parenting is leading the way in our unraveling society. I absolutely agree with Rusty that this woman feels guilty and probly not just for wronging you, but also for numerous other crappy things she and her selfish children have done. Its excellent your taking the higher road. I think pretending that she doesn't even exist would be the most benificial. If (or when) She drives by pretend not to see her look straight ahead and go on with your business. That way it doesnt give her the satisfaction of knowing that she got a reaction out of you. It sucks when people like this come into our lives. Try not to let it eat you.
     
  8. chubbydog811

    chubbydog811 Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Quote:Already on it! I totally ignored her...Just smiled, started talking to my dog, and looked ahead.
    Problem is, I don't think she actually sees a problem with her behavior. She thinks she is better than everyone, and has every right to be like that.
    It really does suck (not just for me, but the fact that there are so many people like her). I just keep myself laughing about it. Won't lose any sleep! It makes me feel better about myself though - knowing that I am the better person by not acting like that is plenty to make me able to ignore her.

    Should have seen the stuff she posted about me on facebook after the falling out [​IMG] I just made a post in response that I don't need to act like I'm 16 and trash on someone else to make myself feel better. After she read that, she de-friended me [​IMG] I'm annoying in the sense that I "have broad shoulders" and usually just brush stuff off (I actually told her kid that once when she was being a little witch to me..."You see these shoulders? They are tough, keep it coming"...hehe yup, that's exactly what I told her. [​IMG] )
     
  9. coloradochick

    coloradochick Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Losers plain and simple.
     
  10. Mattemma

    Mattemma Overrun With Chickens

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    You sound way more mature than her. Good for you! It is too bad you can not take her to small claims court for the money they owe.Probably not worth the hassle,but some part of me would want too. I am sure,as you said,soemthing will come around and bite her in the arse for her poor behavior.
     

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