My heart has adopted Ken's children. They are all grown, one has our 5 year old grandson, and two others gave birth over the weekend, with one more due soon. My question is: If you were the mother of two of these adults, would you find my loving them offensive? Would it bother you if I called them my kids? When I say adult, I mean 26, 24, 22 and 20. The two that are hers are the oldest. I have a very good relationship with all of them. The oldest is hers and not Ken's naturally, but he adopted her at a young age, the next one is his and hers together and the last two are his and not hers. She seems to be very bothered by me calling ANY of them my kids. Thoughts?