Sorry I am ranting, but you guys are always so helpful and I need a "friend" right now. A quick backround : Me and my cousin "D" are the only 2 girls born in our generation. We are 6 years apart. We have always been close although we see each other mostly on holidays etc. "D" was my Maid of Honor at my wedding, 7 other close friends in the Bridal Party. This was 10 years ago. "D" is the Godmother to my 8 year old daughter. "D" got married last month (HUGE wedding). Her best friend "M" was her Maid of Honor. "D" had all of my 3 children in the bridal party. My 6 and 8 year old were flower girls and my 3 year old son was the ring bearer along with her hubby's niece and nephew. I was happy she wanted all my kids involved. I was a little hurt that I was not included in the Bridal Party as there were 6 other girls that no one in the family even seen. 1 I knew was a close friend from college. My mother always taught me that family is all that matters. I had Best Friends from school and my friend that I knew from Kindergarten should have been my Maid Of Honor. But "D" was family and my buddy so to me it was the right thing to do to make her my Maid of Honor. According to my mother, the Maid of Honor should be my first born's Godmother. "D" has missed many birthday parties for my kids, whether it be work, or she was on a trip etc. Now here's the problem.. "D"'s best friend "M" is getting married and of course, "D" is her Maid of Honor. My daughter is making her Communion on May 2nd this year ("D"'s Godchild). Now of course there is a problem with the date because they scheduled "M"'s bridal Shower the same day. I cannot change what the church has planned. So in other words, she probably won't be coming to my daughters Communion. Now, am I wrong for being a little angry? Or is it the little bit of jealousy I feel toward "M" ? "D"'s mom called me several times today because she is upset and she is trying to figure out a way to work all this out. They cannot change the day of the Bridal Shower because "M"'s grandmother is flying in. I am trying not to let anyone see I am upset, but "M" is getting married in Sept, and there is plenty of time. My mother thinks I am overreacting. So apparently family is NOT as important as friendship, thats what hurts the most. If anyone has experienced anything similar, please share it with me. I need to feel a little better.. going to get a glass of wine Thanks for listening!! Oh, PS... my chicks are doing great now! 7 healthy fuzzy butts.. thats the only thing that I can smile about right now.