As most of you know, I just came out of an almost two year relationship that ended in a really bad break up about a week ago. I have a really good friend that's been there for me through most of my rough spots in said relationship. I even dated him during a month and a half break from my now ex. My friend and I had a mutual break up that ended in us staying friends with absolutely no awkwardness. I didn't lose touch with him and he's been a great help and listened to me when I needed it. Aside from my family he was the first one to welcome me home. Last Wednesday he stopped by to check on me and to ask me if I wanted to hang out. I didn't really want to leave the house in case I started crying again, but he convinced me that sitting around watching bad horror movies with him was better than sitting at home hiding from my family and crying. I ended up crying anyway, but he was there for me. He told me it was better to get it out and over with than to bottle it up and end up snapping at everyone around me. He got me to laugh for the rest of the night. I told him I needed to be home before 10pm so I wouldn't be locked out of the house and he got me home early. It's about 30 mins between my house and his. He drove all that way to check on me and make me feel better. I've hung out with him several times since then and I always have fun with him. Then yesterday happened. He asked if we could have a second chance when I feel like I'm ready for another relationship. I really like him. I can talk about my chickens with him and he'll ask me questions about them. The first thing he does when I talk to him is ask how my chickens are doing because he knows they mean a lot to me. He doesn't just sit and listen to me rant, he gets in on it and asks me about whatever is wrong. He's funny, smart, and is always there when I need someone to talk to. Even though he wants to try again, he's not pushy and he wants me to take my time and not rush into things. He told me to take my time and he's not looking for anyone else until he has my answer. I know for a fact that I want to see where we can go this time. The only thing standing in the way this time is my break up. But how much time is enough? I fell like I'm ready to move on now and I know for a fact that I'm not going back into my previous relationship ever again, but I don't want my friend to think that he's a rebound or anything like that, because he's not. I do plan to talk to him about it, to let him know how I feel. I just don't want to hurt him by some weird stroke of bad luck. He's an extremely understanding person, but I don't want to take any chances with him. He's 25 and I'm about to turn 22 in little over a month, but that honestly doesn't matter. He has a pretty good paying job as a piercer and he's about to get promoted to a management position at the tattoo shop.... but I don't care about money. He's one of the weirdest looking guys I know (as far as my mom is concerned), but he is by far one of the sweetest. Unlike with my last relationship he wouldn't ask me to give up anything I love. In fact he encourages all my weirdness and it's one of many things he loves about me. He would never poke fun at my love for piercings because most of his are far stranger than mine and it's what he does for a living. He loves coming out and seeing my pets and he loves hearing about my "chicken plans". I just have no idea when I should stop waiting to "heal" and go after him before I lose my second chance with him. He's told me several times that he's not going anywhere, but I just don't want to take that chance. Sorry for the long post. Some times I just can't seem to figure things out on my own.