I figured my fellow BYC family would listen to me! My DH and I rent (so we pay her monthly) his Grandmother's farm house and she lives in her new house about 2 acres away (so on the same property). She is still living in the past, won't spend any money and decorates her house with things from the local second hand shop (even though she has money coming out of the nose). Problem 1: When we first moved into the house, she told me I was not allowed to use cleaning products on the vinyl flooring in the kitchen because 'it will take the shine away'. Thats fine, but the last renters had already done so and there IS NO SHINE left on these floors. It is a high traffic area in the house and the shine is gone from usage. I still use Mr. Clean on the floor, because water doesnt cut it. She doesn't want me using any cleaner on the hard wood either (even though it is scratched to h*ll). Problem 2: In the Spring/Summer, she'd come by to drop a bill off (water or whatever) and she'd comment on how my garden looked dry. I should be watering it more often. I watered my garden once a day or every two days. I work FULL TIME, leave at 7am and don't get home till 5:30pm. My DH same thing. I do my best. Problem 3: My Chickens. This is the doozy. Ofcouse when she lived in the farm house, they always had chickens. She fed them EVERYTHING from the kitchen, bones, meat..EVERYTHING. I do not feel my chickens need extra junk. They only get their feed, scratch, and veggies/fruit. I don't give them meat because, why the heck would I feed my chickens with other animals? It just doesnt make sense to me. Anyways. She was ok with not saying anything all summer, other than the food issue (she actually went INTO my garbage, took out bad celery and took it to my chickens...my DH wouldnt let me stop her). Now that it is cold out, I provide the chickens with the heat lamp at -5 degrees (at night). I leave the chicken door open all day and all night, so they can go out when they want. I guess DH told her that I provide heat for them, and she CALLED ME to tell me I dont need to do that, that she NEVER gave hers heat. I said Thank you but I only do it when its cold at night. I thought that was the end of that. BUT NO! DH and I came home from shopping on Saturday and realized the chickens weren't outside in their run...I went in and she had CLOSED the chicken door and put a bail (sp) of hay infront of the door, to block any cold from coming in. I AM SO MAD! LEAVE MY CHICKENS ALONE! I wanted to call her, but DH wouldnt let me. He says "she is just trying to be nice.." So last night we went to a family birthday party and she was there. She said to DH "so did you see what I did to the door?" and he said "yes, but why did you do that?" and she said "So you wouldn't have to heat them! We never let our chickens out in the winter" and I couldnt stay quiet. So I said nicely "but Oma (grandmother in German) they like going outside during the day!" and she backed down and looked upset and said 'well whatever, this way you dont have to pay to heat them' I was so upset I literally walked out of the room and sat alone in the living room. I want to tear her face off. DH won't talk to me about it because he knows we can't ask her to stop and thats what I want him to do. ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (sorry so long, this has been building for along time now) May I add, she says all of this with a little nervous laugh at the end...so you can't get mad at her.