So a few months ago I posted about my insane MIL who has been a constant nightmare for years, her recent antics that lead to me saying "no more" and my husband FINALLY standing up to her and telling her she either needs to get mental help or not be around us... I have been really proud of him because she has run the nutball gambit of reactions since my husband finally stood up to her. She started by blaming me and letting him "off the hook". When that didn't fly she lashed out and threw some choice accusations out there. When that didn't work it was a month of silent treatment in conjunction with sending him emails with "nothing is wrong" jokes and family updates in an attempt to con him into dropping it and then she cc's to him on correspondence between his cousin and her about how much she wants the cousin to be her close family and is like a son. I'm pretty sure the last was a very childish attempt on my MIL part to egg my husband into letting her off the hook and begging her to be nice to him again. When ALL this didn't work she went bananas, wrote my husband a nasty gram telling him she wasn't his mother anymore and she wasn't going to let him control her, or tell her how to interact with her own grandchildren. Followed a day later by a blatant attempt to cover her nasty gram by telling him she was soooo sorry and she was wrong and he was the most wonderful son and father and a way better husband than I deserved and blah blah blah. I called it her "Here bumblebee, here's some smoke to blow up your rear. Now calm down and let me act anyway I want" email. Long story short, she has YET to acknowledge any of the grievances my husband has brought up, taken NO responsibility for any of her hateful action in the past and flat out told him that she will not change. My husband so far is pretty mad and sticking with his guns... BUT... I'm seven and a half months pregnant and the closer I get to my due date, the more pressure my FIL is putting on my husband to "drop the whole thing" so that my MIL can see the baby when he is born (the baby my MIL has taken NO interest in up until now). And in the last week my husband has been pretty darn snarfy with me especially about the baby. So I know it's eating at him. My FIL is visiting (without my MIL) this Saturday and I know the guilt is going to be heavy and I know my husband is already dreading it and more than likely, it's going to become a fight when I won't budge because I will not have his crazy, psychopath mother around our kids or baby until she gets mental help. Any suggestions on how to handle it if my FIL makes a point of bringing it up with me? I mean I can't very well call his wife a lunatic. Even though she is. And he refuses to acknowledge her insane behavior. So... what can you say in a situation like that?