Now normally I'm quite a capable woman of sorting things out on my own, and I already think I have the answer, it's just one no one seems to like it. I wouldn't normally run online to ask advice from strangers, but I feel I have reached a last resort, not that any of you fine lady's & gentleman should feel like a last resort as I wouldn't be coming to the forum for advice if I didn't feel like it was the right place to go. I've seen many of you step up in a time of need whether it's related to chickens or not. We all seem to take each other in as distant family's for our love of poultry, so naturally I feel less judged here than anywhere else. I have been put in a rather uncomfortable spot, or rather my husband has been put in an uncomfortable spot. His father may be dieing and is a hospital 3 hours away. When we found out we got an offer from a family member, who said if we need anything, like them taking our 1 and half year old son and watching him while we go up there, they would do so and to keep them updated. We've kept them updated with everything we know as we know it and the time has come that we need to go up there, well it turns out the offer is now closed, and they are rather confused as to why we can't take our son with us? Naturally I'm angry at being let down by someone I feel I shouldn't as I would drop everything for them and yet it seems the favor is not returned even after THEY offered, not WE asked. I know cannot come with my husband for support, as I will need to stay behind for our son, which I was prepared to do, but he is in an utter state about it, which I would be if the tables were turned. I have asked all I can of others but it being such short notice no one is available to watch our son at this time. He would not cope with the journey for he is just getting over a bad cold, otherwise I WOULD take him with us. But I've been made to feel foolish and that I have let people down. Is staying the right thing? Or is there a option I've overlooked due to being upset? Thank you in for taking the time to read my rant. I just wish I could make everything better!