In need of some URGENT advice

Discussion in 'Random Ramblings' started by TheGoodLifeGirl, Jan 5, 2014.

  1. TheGoodLifeGirl

    TheGoodLifeGirl Out Of The Brooder

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    Now normally I'm quite a capable woman of sorting things out on my own, and I already think I have the answer, it's just one no one seems to like it. I wouldn't normally run online to ask advice from strangers, but I feel I have reached a last resort, not that any of you fine lady's & gentleman should feel like a last resort as I wouldn't be coming to the forum for advice if I didn't feel like it was the right place to go. I've seen many of you step up in a time of need whether it's related to chickens or not. We all seem to take each other in as distant family's for our love of poultry, so naturally I feel less judged here than anywhere else.

    I have been put in a rather uncomfortable spot, or rather my husband has been put in an uncomfortable spot. His father may be dieing and is a hospital 3 hours away. When we found out we got an offer from a family member, who said if we need anything, like them taking our 1 and half year old son and watching him while we go up there, they would do so and to keep them updated. We've kept them updated with everything we know as we know it and the time has come that we need to go up there, well it turns out the offer is now closed, and they are rather confused as to why we can't take our son with us? Naturally I'm angry at being let down by someone I feel I shouldn't as I would drop everything for them and yet it seems the favor is not returned even after THEY offered, not WE asked. I know cannot come with my husband for support, as I will need to stay behind for our son, which I was prepared to do, but he is in an utter state about it, which I would be if the tables were turned. I have asked all I can of others but it being such short notice no one is available to watch our son at this time. He would not cope with the journey for he is just getting over a bad cold, otherwise I WOULD take him with us. But I've been made to feel foolish and that I have let people down. Is staying the right thing? Or is there a option I've overlooked due to being upset?

    Thank you in for taking the time to read my rant. I just wish I could make everything better!
     
  2. dawg53

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    Are there other family members, either side of the family that could watch your son? If not, perhaps a caretaker or nanny might be needed.
     
  3. TheGoodLifeGirl

    TheGoodLifeGirl Out Of The Brooder

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    The family member's who said they'd have him have backed out at the last minute and we were supposed to be leaving 10am tomorrow. We've called all the family members & friends we know who would do it if they could but obviously with it being short notice they can't get off work which is understandable. I also live in a town that doesn't have 24 hour nannies, and no one would let me book so shortly in advance. Which is why I've decided to stay home and let my husband go. But he is upset that I'm not coming with him, I know if I was able to I would and it would change his whole outlook, so if I was able to do that for him as he would do for me it would be wonderful. And because the family member who said they would take our son then declined was my side of the family I feel like I've let him down.
     
  4. 6 littleHens

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    Any responsible teenagers on either family side that would do it for pay?
     
  5. TheGoodLifeGirl

    TheGoodLifeGirl Out Of The Brooder

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    Yes, but annoyingly they are the children of the people who backed out in the first place...
     
  6. rebelcowboysnb

    rebelcowboysnb Confederate Money Farm Premium Member

    I know nothing about the culture of Scotland but here I could ask dang near anyone around me an they would step up. An if asked even by a neighbor I barely know I would step up an help. Call a church an see if they know who would be good to talk to.
     
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  7. 6 littleHens

    6 littleHens Chillin' With My Peeps

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    No other teens in family or neighbors?
     
  8. TheGoodLifeGirl

    TheGoodLifeGirl Out Of The Brooder

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    I'm rather shocked at the response of family at the moment. People I thought would step up, as I have for them in a similar circumstance have basically thrown in the towel. I think that's what has made it so upsetting, as in a time of need we feel a bit lonely.

    As I am not from Scotland but have lived here for a little bit, I only have 1 set of family members who live here, the rest are down in England. My Husbands family lives 3 hours away or more (hence why we need to travel). We recently moved into this house in November, so I don't know the neighbors well enough to go over before 10am tomorrow and ask them for such a huge favour, and a bit worried about leaving my son with just an aquaintance.

    I could try a church, but it's being able to get someone before 10am is the problem. As it's now half past midnight here in Scotland.
     
  9. Peaches Lee

    Peaches Lee Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Do you have any friends that are cool with taking a little kid in an emergency. Sorry your going through this, I hope you can figure something out. [​IMG]
     
  10. TheGoodLifeGirl

    TheGoodLifeGirl Out Of The Brooder

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    Managed to get in contact with a friend who lives an hour away, she's trying to sort out getting down here to watch him as you sent that post. Fingers crossed
     

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