I recently discovered that my husband of 12 years has been responding to "sensual massage" ads ($100 for 30 minutes) on backpage.com I wasn't even familiar with this site but it looks like its similar to craigslist. I kind of hacked into his email, not really hacked but knew the user name and guessed the password. This was while he was in the hospital recovering from a minor heart surgery, (he is fine). So, I checked his sent mail and there are several responces to ads on backpage and craigslist all since Feb. Two ads had phone numbers and I checked our cell account and there were no calls but don't know about texts. Then last night he apparently signed up for an interracial dating website. I found his account and he said he was divorced has a college degree and is 8 years younger than he is. I have not confronted him about this yet. Is this cheating? I have no family remotely close to me and we live in my mother's house (she moved across country 10 years ago) but we never put the house in our name. I cannot afford to live here alone. Thanks for letting me vent.