Mom's pregnant again... UPDATE post 44

[mom'sfolly]

eenie has a right to her feelings. She is the oldest child in a homeschool family...I suspect she does as much of the child rearing as her mother does. especially now with mom being cranky and irritable. I suspect if she was the eldest boy, she wouldn't be expected to help so much with her siblings.

On the birth control issues. Yes birth control fails, but if you are finished with children or don't intend to have children, there are simple, easy, permanent solutions. Personally, I feel that anyone who has enough experience to have six kids, should have figured out how to prevent the seventh, if it was indeed a "whoops". You forget to take a pill, then you use back-up or abstain. This isn't rocket science. JMHO Think of how any parent would feel if their kid had a "whoops" as a teenager.

 

[bkreugar]

mom'sfolly :

eenie has a right to her feelings. She is the oldest child in a homeschool family...I suspect she does as much of the child rearing as her mother does. especially now with mom being cranky and irritable. I suspect if she was the eldest boy, she wouldn't be expected to help so much with her siblings.

On the birth control issues. Yes birth control fails, but if you are finished with children or don't intend to have children, there are simple, easy, permanent solutions. Personally, I feel that anyone who has enough experience to have six kids, should have figured out how to prevent the seventh, if it was indeed a "whoops". You forget to take a pill, then you use back-up or abstain. This isn't rocket science. JMHO Think of how any parent would feel if their kid had a "whoops" as a teenager.

(((((MOmsfolly))) You said it soo much better than I could!!

I often feel that people say it was an oops because they don;t want to feel the sting of judgement from someone THINKING(but not saying) AGAIN???

Have 2 both planned and then got fixed (or broken as my DH says) there is a 5yr difference between the 2 and it must be too much of a gap cuz the oldest has very fond memories of being the ONLY! Much of my parenting is dealing with her resentment that he even BREATHES! I don;t regret it , but I do see how it effects the family dynamic and I RARELY if ever have her watch him because I KNOW she is not going to be fair to him. In case your wondering Both children have the same father.

EEnie I will be thinking of you!​

 

[redhen]

mom'sfolly :

eenie has a right to her feelings. She is the oldest child in a homeschool family...I suspect she does as much of the child rearing as her mother does. especially now with mom being cranky and irritable. I suspect if she was the eldest boy, she wouldn't be expected to help so much with her siblings.

On the birth control issues. Yes birth control fails, but if you are finished with children or don't intend to have children, there are simple, easy, permanent solutions. Personally, I feel that anyone who has enough experience to have six kids, should have figured out how to prevent the seventh, if it was indeed a "whoops". You forget to take a pill, then you use back-up or abstain. This isn't rocket science. JMHO Think of how any parent would feel if their kid had a "whoops" as a teenager.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

When it comes to the older kids and chores I see no problem with helping with the laundry, dishes, vacuuming and things of that nature. But I just don't understand making the older children bathe and diaper the little ones. Talk about a quick way to make the older kids resent the young ones. And just how does a teen tell their mom that if they wanted the responsibility of diapers and baths they'd get knocked up without causing an argument. Do parents that rely on the older children to help with bathing and diapers even realize how much they are putting on them? Occasionally I would ask my oldest to sit in the bathroom for a couple of minutes while her sis was in the tub (already washed, just playing with bath toys) so I could go use the other restroom privately. But that is the most I would ask. I know my sis watched us sometimes and she really resented it. She literally tied up my brother to the toilet with a dog leash and stuck an apple in his mouth once because he wouldn't stop beating me up. Yep I get why she would resent the responsibility.

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

I'm pregnant with 9 and 10 myself. Yes, the older kids have chores to help at home. However, short of major emergencies, they are not responsible for siblings, and then they get paid very well. DH and I choose to have kids, we raise them.

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

Oh, and 1 oops in there, wasn't back on bc, DH just got home from being deployed, we had 2 hours with no kids. 3 days later smacked my head on the timing. But that was the adults being rather stupid, not an accident, and we admit that.

 

[Chickengal505]

Eenie hey sis I'm here for you. I'm the second out of seven. But They're all half siblings and umm.. hmmm... umm.... not all from the same dad. I live with my dad (whom I have issues with) and havn't seen my mom in god knows how long. But I'm always the one to call when the baby is fussy and won't settle down. Call Holly and make her babysit

But putting up with a grumpy fussy lady is well worth the life expereance we get from this.

so hang tight. In ten years you guys will look back and your siblings will say "wow, sis, thanks for all you did for me back then) I know because my seven year old brother called me yesterday to say thank you for babysitting me sense the hour I was born

so it's worth it

Hold in there Eenie, you'll male it through.

 

[BlackBrookPoultry]

Wow! I'm amazed at all the people on here talking about their huge families. I kind of thought having 5+ kids was a thing of the past. With the family farm being very rare and limited natural resources it just seems silly to have that many. I helped out with my brothers who were 3 and 4 years younger than me, but if my mom would have kept kicking out kids I think I would have went crazy. I really feel for you on this one.

 

[redhen]

I dont think its a bad thing to have many children(thats a personal decision between husband and wife and noones darn business..)....if you can REALLY afford it. And as long as you dont make your older children raise your babies..
Its not fair, its simply not right. YOU chose to have those kids... not your child.
As for kids having house chores... of COURSE they should! But raising your child shouldnt be one of them.... if you need that much help... then its time to stop having babies.
Just my opinion...

 

[mom'sfolly]

What Redhen said!