Mom's pregnant again... UPDATE post 44

[terrilhb]

I am the oldest of 5. There is 12 and 14 years between my youngest sister and brother. It is hard. But hang in there. I am so close to my sister's and brother's now. Sending you hugs.

 

[sfw2]

No sage advice, here, just

We all know from your posts that you are a great big sis. I'm sure that won't change, even if there is another Lumpy brought into the world!

 

[Glenmar]

Sorry kiddo.

 

[redhen]

Eenie.. i can just imagine how you feel. And to add more, i know you are a good/helpful child...but i cant stand when parents choose to have several children and then put a good portion of the responsibility on their older children.... tis not really fair. Not at ALL...IMO..
I know you love your siblings very much...but i have read several of your posts where you are basically the mother figure.... i imagine you get pretty worn out.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

Hugs to you Eenie.

 

[Southernbelle]

Honey, I know exactly how you feel.

I'm the oldest girl in a Catholic family with 6 kids. My mother counted on me to help with my younger siblings and I watched my youngest sister so much she started calling me mommy. If my mother left to run an errand and left my father in charge of us kids...he would immediately find me and put me in charge. It still makes me angry that he would do that. I was given waaaaay too much responsibility at too young of an age.

When my mother announced she was having a 7th baby, I was so mad! I felt like I was pratically raising their last baby and I certainly did not want to do it over again! It turns out she lost that 7th baby to a miscarriage and although my mother was devastated, I'm ashamed to admit I was relieved at the time (but I was still sympathetic to my mom.) As an adult with children, I've had 2 miscarriages and I know how devastaing they are and I'm not proud of my reaction, but I was just a teenager in a difficult position.

It gets better. Being so much older than the other kids, you get to go to college first and I made sure to pick a college I needed to board at. I had soooooo much fun at college (never got in trouble - never drank, smoked or tried drugs) but to go wherever you wanted without kids or housework was heaven! To set your hairbrush down in one spot and it would still be there the next day - priceless! It was the best time of my life. I met my husband, there, too.

As an adult, I have a lot of fond memories of growing up in a large family and A LOT of practical experience. When my friends started getting married and having kids, I was the one they came to for advice and when I started having my own babies, I wasn't scared, I knew exactly what to expect. Now I have 4 and I'm careful not to ask too much of my older kids. As much as it sucks right now, you'll be glad of the experience.

Hang in there

 

[bt03]

No words of advice or words of wisdom here just hugs because I know exactly how you feel

 

[LittleChickenLady]

I agree with redhen, it's not fair to the older kids at all..
I don't see why they should have to be a mother or father figure just because the parents decided to have more kids than they can handle.

Sorry Eenie.

 

[swift4me]

Sometimes I just cannot believe how casual/flippant some people are about bringing another child into the world. Economy in the toilet for most, schools overcrowded, too many cars on the road, no jobs.... HEY, let's have a baby.

I understand large families in the days of manual labor on family farms, but families of more than three kids in the modern world really make me scratch my head.

But maybe I'm the crazy one.

Pete

 

[krcote]

Quote:
I would suggest you are more careful in choosing your words.