Jemma Rider
Songster
I feel really silly posting this, i don't like things about my personal life floating around on the internet raw exposed and unprotected but i don't know what else to do.
My best friend has depression and anxiety and i have anxiety (what kind of a pair are we).
I don't know if i can handle it much longer. I have this cousin, he's always bullied me i got used to it after a while, but he's very close friends with my best friend. It's made things very complicated since he still taunts me and bullies me even though he's close to turning eighteen, but my best friend had always given him the benefit of the doubt and chose to ignore it all.
I've known my best friend to have depression for a little over two years now, it's never been a horribly big deal (i mean of course it's a big deal but i feel like everything has been worse recently). I don't know if i can take it much longer. Just last week she had a, for lack of a better word, very public meltdown while ordering Italian ice which of course spiked my anxiety as well, but the burden of calming her down fell to me once again, and me being as awkward as i am i still don't know how to comfort her or even if i can.
Tonight is yet another example of me saying all the wrong things and now I'm just sitting here with my way to fast heartbeat in my ears and i can't slow it down.
I pretty much had my anxiety and my nerves in check up until a year ago when my lizard died, she was very special, i rescued her and helped her recover from her first owners neglect. She's the first thing I've felt connected to if that makes any sense, like it was just me and my baby girl, against the rest of the world.
And now I'm pretty sure my flock and my three ten week old pullets have fowl pox, I'm starting high school, and the anniversary of the day i rescued my beloved Roxy heart is approaching and i don't know what to do.
I feel like this is just one of those years where your life falls apart and there is absolutely nothing you can do about anything but hope it glues itself back together. before my lizard i had actually never lost anyone or anything, and then she died and now everything is just slowly withering away and i can't help but wonder if there's something I'm doing wrong.
But back to my friend i just don't know what to do anymore, as of tonight she's shut down her Pinterest account so she can't talk to anybody (she says she needs some time off-line, which i suppose could be good for her but i don't know), she says she'll be back in a few days. It's all my fault honestly i said something about my idiot cousin and it set her off, i tried to retract what i had said but, like everything, it just spiraled out of control.
I just want to be normal honestly, I'm so sick of feeling like I'm suffocating all of the time. It's actually why i got my chickens, they calm me down really quickly but with my current suspicions of fowl pox I'm relying solely on lavender essential oils.
I love my best friend so much, but I'm at a point where i think i need to think about myself, i can't keep doing this weird thing, where i deal with her issues (or try to anyway, feels like everything i say or do makes it worse) and then i crash and deal with my own i want to feel calm just for a minute that would be amazing. I feel like this whole thing with her is ripping me to shreds, but i can't do anything I'm trapped, if i say the wrong thing or do anything wrong I'm afraid it could throw her over the ledge.
I just wanted to talk i guess to someone who has no stake in the matter and doesn't know me so there's no bias.
I'm wondering if someone out there with a loved one struggling with depression or anxiety or something could give me a bit of advice on how I'm supposed to help, if i can at all. All i want is to help her feel better, i know that isn't always possible but still. I know it's a heavy topic and i feel horrible for asking but i don't know what else to do other then Google and i can't trust Google.
Everything is so much simpler when i can just type out clear, coherent statements or questions.
Here are some quick pictures of Roxy, since her anniversary is approaching, she would've been five earlier this year, she deserved for more people to look at her pretty smile.
My best friend has depression and anxiety and i have anxiety (what kind of a pair are we).
I don't know if i can handle it much longer. I have this cousin, he's always bullied me i got used to it after a while, but he's very close friends with my best friend. It's made things very complicated since he still taunts me and bullies me even though he's close to turning eighteen, but my best friend had always given him the benefit of the doubt and chose to ignore it all.
I've known my best friend to have depression for a little over two years now, it's never been a horribly big deal (i mean of course it's a big deal but i feel like everything has been worse recently). I don't know if i can take it much longer. Just last week she had a, for lack of a better word, very public meltdown while ordering Italian ice which of course spiked my anxiety as well, but the burden of calming her down fell to me once again, and me being as awkward as i am i still don't know how to comfort her or even if i can.
Tonight is yet another example of me saying all the wrong things and now I'm just sitting here with my way to fast heartbeat in my ears and i can't slow it down.
I pretty much had my anxiety and my nerves in check up until a year ago when my lizard died, she was very special, i rescued her and helped her recover from her first owners neglect. She's the first thing I've felt connected to if that makes any sense, like it was just me and my baby girl, against the rest of the world.
And now I'm pretty sure my flock and my three ten week old pullets have fowl pox, I'm starting high school, and the anniversary of the day i rescued my beloved Roxy heart is approaching and i don't know what to do.
I feel like this is just one of those years where your life falls apart and there is absolutely nothing you can do about anything but hope it glues itself back together. before my lizard i had actually never lost anyone or anything, and then she died and now everything is just slowly withering away and i can't help but wonder if there's something I'm doing wrong.
But back to my friend i just don't know what to do anymore, as of tonight she's shut down her Pinterest account so she can't talk to anybody (she says she needs some time off-line, which i suppose could be good for her but i don't know), she says she'll be back in a few days. It's all my fault honestly i said something about my idiot cousin and it set her off, i tried to retract what i had said but, like everything, it just spiraled out of control.
I just want to be normal honestly, I'm so sick of feeling like I'm suffocating all of the time. It's actually why i got my chickens, they calm me down really quickly but with my current suspicions of fowl pox I'm relying solely on lavender essential oils.
I love my best friend so much, but I'm at a point where i think i need to think about myself, i can't keep doing this weird thing, where i deal with her issues (or try to anyway, feels like everything i say or do makes it worse) and then i crash and deal with my own i want to feel calm just for a minute that would be amazing. I feel like this whole thing with her is ripping me to shreds, but i can't do anything I'm trapped, if i say the wrong thing or do anything wrong I'm afraid it could throw her over the ledge.
I just wanted to talk i guess to someone who has no stake in the matter and doesn't know me so there's no bias.
I'm wondering if someone out there with a loved one struggling with depression or anxiety or something could give me a bit of advice on how I'm supposed to help, if i can at all. All i want is to help her feel better, i know that isn't always possible but still. I know it's a heavy topic and i feel horrible for asking but i don't know what else to do other then Google and i can't trust Google.
Everything is so much simpler when i can just type out clear, coherent statements or questions.
Here are some quick pictures of Roxy, since her anniversary is approaching, she would've been five earlier this year, she deserved for more people to look at her pretty smile.