My daughter is so depressed, it breaks my heart!

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by Sjisty, Jun 20, 2011.

  1. Sjisty

    Sjisty Scribe of Brahmalot

    May 18, 2009
    Long story short -

    DD, Julie, married in 2003. One of her biggest goals in life is being a mother. In 2006 (I think) she became pregnant but lost the baby within a month. Now, here it is after 8 years and 2 fertility specialists. She has failed to get pregnant no matter what they have tried. All that's left is in-vitro fertilization at a whopping price tag of $15,000!!!

    We are working on it - I told her if she can raise half, then so can we, so every spare penny is going in the "baby fund." It's a long road with only a 40% chance of working, but it's her last chance.

    She cries every time it's "that time of the month." This is so hard for her (and her hubby). I so wish I could be there, but she lives in Texas and I am in Florida. Thank goodness for "no roaming fees."

    Anyway, thanks for letting me vent! We will get through this just as we have done everything else life has thrown at us.

    By the way, if there are any fertility doctors in or around the Dallas area who aren't just out to make tons of money helping young couples have babies, I would really like to send my daughter to you!
  2. sonew123

    sonew123 Poultry Snuggie

    Mar 16, 2009
    onchiota NY
    OH Im so sorry:( My SIL went through the same thing for 7 years-tried all fertility except in vitro because they couldnt find the $ to do it. BUT she has Chrones ( sp) disease and had to go get part of her intestine taken off. Within 6 weeks after her surgery she was pregnant! The surgerys and such threw her body into a funk and then allowed her to conceive. After her first son was born she never bothered to take birth control because she thought...what are the chances? Well 3 months later she got preggers again! son #2 born. It is so weird that when your body gets tampered with medically, like that, how it could totally change what previously couldnt work? Odd but worked?
    As for your DD The stress alone could be stopping it from happening. If she is putting that much stress on her body-with crying and such-that right there could be preventing alot from happening. I know I know...How can she not be sad and depressed? I dont have those answers but I do know that stress wreaks havoc on a body:( I pray you guys find a way to make this happen and tell your DD to do something around her period time that is fun and exciting and try and keep her mind off of it... [​IMG]
  3. Sjisty

    Sjisty Scribe of Brahmalot

    May 18, 2009
    Thanks Natalie - I just feel so darned helpless! If I could carry her baby, I would. Quite a mind picture - me at 50-ish preggers!
  4. CupOJoe42

    CupOJoe42 CT Chicken Whisperer

    Apr 11, 2011
    So sorry that she's going through this. I know how she is feeling because I lost my last for pregnancies (2 miscarriages, 1 ectopic, and 1 fetal demise at 6 months.) My heart and prayers go out to her. The only suggestion I can make at this time is to find a support group so that she is not feeling so alone while going through this. Above all else, trust in the Lord and seek His love, grace, and mercy each day. He can make a way where there seems to be no way. (((hugs)))
  5. terrilhb

    terrilhb Chillin' With My Peeps

    Dec 11, 2010
    I am so sorry you are all going through this. I am sending prayers and hugs to all of you. [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG]
  6. kara_leigh

    kara_leigh Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 3, 2011
    Bradleyville, MO
    I'm so sorry she is going through this. I am going through the same thing and would never wish it on anyone. My 12 year old son was a surprise. We started trying again when he was 18 months old, and I had 5 miscarriages and an ectopic between then and when he was 3, and haven't been able to get pregnant at all since then. I've had every test under the sun, and the only thing left would be to try IVF or adopt. With my history of miscarriages I would never want to risk IVF, and we could never afford it anyway. It sucks, and I really feel for her. I would do anything for another baby, but I doubt I will ever have one.
    Last edited: Jun 20, 2011
  7. Southernbelle

    Southernbelle Gone Broody

    Mar 17, 2008
    I'm so sorry! [​IMG]

    I have an insensitive question, but does your DD need to lose weight? I know a lot of people (myself included) that needed fertility treatments, then after losing weight got pregnant unexpectedly. I needed help getting pregnant with my 3rd child. Once she arrived, I didn't worry about birth control anymore. I was happy with my family, but figured it couldn't happen since we needed help to get pregnant in the first place. After my youngest turned 1 years old, I wanted to be healthier so gradually started losing weight. 4 years later and 50lbs lighter, I got an unexpected surprise!
  8. Sjisty

    Sjisty Scribe of Brahmalot

    May 18, 2009
    Quote:Hi - good question, but no, she's a size 6. She has only one working ovary and her hubby has slow swimmers.
  9. A.T. Hagan

    A.T. Hagan Don't Panic

    Aug 13, 2007
    North/Central Florida
    With only a 40% chance of success even after enormous expense I suggest finding her some good counseling. Make the attempt, but if it fails the backlash is likely to be devastating. Counseling may be her best chance of surviving the aftermath.
  10. Tanichca

    Tanichca Sparkle Magnet

    May 6, 2009
    Vail, Arizona
    [​IMG] I'm so sorry! My prayers are going out to you. [​IMG]
    Is adopting an option?

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