My husband is being a jerk!! >:(

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by TinyTotsSeramas, Jun 27, 2011.

  1. TinyTotsSeramas

    TinyTotsSeramas Chillin' With My Peeps

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    So its okay for him to spend $35 a week on renting an xbox from rent-a-center and downloading a $65 game AND buying Black Ops but I cant get 4 Jersey Giant chicks from online!
    This is WAR!! [​IMG]
     
  2. Oregon Blues

    Oregon Blues Overrun With Chickens

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    Seriously? $140 a month to rent an X-box that you could buy for $300? Maybe instead of war, you could talk hubby into taking some financial counseling.

    That was not said to be mean. I am seriously concerned about you.
     
  3. classicsredone

    classicsredone Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I don't want to sound harsh, but I agree with the fact that renting an xbox for $35 a week is crazy. You are better off buying a new or used one for a lot less than renting will cost in the long run.
     
  4. deerman

    deerman Rest in Peace 1949-2012

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    Quote:That a rent to own place......he will own it after so many weeks
     
  5. California Gurl

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  6. HHandbasket

    HHandbasket The Chickeneer

    I'll rent you ours for $10 a week & then maybe I can see my hubby once in awhile. LOL!
     
  7. Blue

    Blue Chillin' With My Peeps

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    You can get a used 360 for around $100 now. Why is he renting one when he could own one for less? I bought a new arcade model 360 a couple years ago for $200 and then spent $30 for a used hard drive. Renting that stuff just isn't worth it for the prices they charge. Did he not look at the prices for systems at Gamestop and other stores? The rent-to-own places just rip you off.

    Honestly, if it was me, and I'm not advocating that you do this because I realize it's not a solution, I'd buy the chickens anyway and not consult him on it, just like he didn't feel the need to consult you on the 360 rental. I just don't like being told what I can spend my money on; I worked for it, so I should darn well be able to spend it on whatever I want, and possibly that is one of the many reasons why I'm not married yet and will probably die an old maid. [​IMG]

    However, something needs to be done about his attitude over the situation. If he feels like he can spend money on whatever he wants without talking to you about it, then why doesn't he feel the same should apply to you? A marriage is supposed to be a parnership (meaning you both decide on things together), and I'd confront him about it. If you both talked about it and decided you wanted the 360, then that's great, but if he decided he wanted the 360 at the expense of not even considering something that you wanted instead, then that's a problem as he basically just brushed off your wishes like his were more important.
     
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  8. deerman

    deerman Rest in Peace 1949-2012

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    yes the rent -to-own you pay 2 times what one cost new.....those places are for peole who can't get a loan.
     
  9. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    For some of us, rent to own places are the only way we can get anything.
     
  10. punk-a-doodle

    punk-a-doodle Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Aye, my husband read rent-to-own over my shoulder and was like, "uh uh". Buy used or buy through layaway. Or, save a bit each month and then buy. However, he adds, as with any purchase but especially ones that can't be made in one payment, your husband needs to seriously consider if this entertainment purchase is one he should be making, because it definitely is not a needed purchase. I definitely have to agree with that.

    But yeah, on your original post, some things to consider (you don't have to comment on them, just consider to yourself) is who works in the household, and how do you both view any money coming in. If, say, you are working and you see the money as only yours, or if you, for instance, are both working but he brings in more and sees any money coming in as just his, this can cause vast issues if both partners are not on the same page. Meeting only one's own needs and desires and not considering those of a spouse definitely is not good times, and can cause some serious upset. I would not just buy the chickens, as that is modeling behavior that will not benefit a marriage (not discussing decisions with spouses, which it sounds he did not do with you for the Xbox). I would sit down, clearly discuss your frustrations, and then start thinking and talking about what needs to happen and start thinking about what will happen if it does not. That's just what I'd do personally though.
     
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