My husband left me and the kids.

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by CrazyFowlFreak, Nov 27, 2011.

  1. CrazyFowlFreak

    CrazyFowlFreak Pine Hill Farm

    Apr 24, 2009
    He's been battling alcoholism for years, trying to quit, etc, but it never stuck for very long. Now he says it's me that the problem. Says I complain about his drinking so much that he needs to drink to live with me. I told him I wouldn't be married to a falling down drunk that does the three p's anymore. So, he called from work on Friday and said he wasn't coming home. This is after, two weeks ago, he never came home and me, the kids, and his mom drove all night looking for him in a ditch somewhere and he had ended up stopping at a bar and getting so drunk he was drunk at noon the next day when we found him. Nice. He took off once before three years ago, same thing, alcohol. Said tonight when he came to pick up some stuff that I forced him to come home three years ago and he's been pretending to love me still all this time but he didn't. I will get over this, I still love him and I know it's the disease talking, but my poor babies. They're only 8 and 10. They want to know where Daddy is and why he won't come home. I told the 10 year old what was going on and she said she kind of had figured it out. But the 8 year old is too young, I think to tell the truth to yet. I cannot believe he didn't call us for three days. Actually, now that I've thought about it, I cannot love this man. I cannot love anyone who does this to his partner and kids.
  2. ChickiKat

    ChickiKat Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jul 10, 2011
    Eastern Kansas
    Wow, what a tough deal. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers
  3. cravenchx

    cravenchx Chillin' With My Peeps

    Aug 7, 2011
    Piedmont of NC
    Do NOT let him continue to blame YOU and the children
    for the problems he has. Been there, done that. Do
    something for the children and you. Try and succeed to
    get on with your life. How much harder could it be?
  4. Kevin565

    Kevin565 Chicken Obsessed Premium Member

    Dec 22, 2009
    I can't begin to imagine the feelings your going through right now [​IMG]
  5. Majestic Lane Poultry

    Majestic Lane Poultry Heart Strings Animal Rehoming

    Feb 9, 2009
    Oh dear, I'm sorry for the pain you are going through on so many levels. Prayers for all involved. If you need to talk, I'm a good listener. Hugs.
  6. Jamie_Dog_Trainer

    Jamie_Dog_Trainer Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jul 8, 2008
    Washington State
    [​IMG] My Dad did the same thing to my Mom, me and my sisters several times. Same thing: alcoholic. Finally one day after he took his whole paycheck and gambled/drank it away and didn't come home for three days, he called. My Mom told him not to bother coming home and that he'd better not try it either. I *kinda* get where you're at with this, and I couldn't be sorrier for the situation and what it does to the kids. I was only 2 1/2 when my Dad left and didn't come back.

    Sometimes you have to say enough is enough. You'll feel guilty, you'll second guess yourself, and it will be hard on the kids. But when it comes to children living with an alcoholic that is as severe as you describe all the negative of having him gone will probably outweight the positives of having him home. Then again, if he does come back there is always hope that you might, eventually get through to him. I will be praying for you and your kids. [​IMG]
  7. stoopid

    stoopid Chicken Fairy Godmother

    Aug 3, 2011
    Long Island, NY
    I wish you strength [​IMG]
  8. cravenchx

    cravenchx Chillin' With My Peeps

    Aug 7, 2011
    Piedmont of NC
    YOU CAN DO IT! [​IMG] [​IMG]
  9. ChikeeMomma

    ChikeeMomma Chillin' With My Peeps

    Mar 29, 2009
    Mid Michigan
    I'm so very sorry you and your kids are dealing with this! Saying prayers for you tonight. Take care of those babies and yourself!
  10. welasharon

    welasharon Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 28, 2010
    North Florida
    I'm sorry. I know that has to be tough. My mom stayed with my dad for over 60 years. I wish she had left him years ago and had a decent life of her own. We would have managed just fine. I wish you the best in getting the best for you and your kids. No one should have to live with a drunk.

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