I'll try not to go into too many details, but this past friday my room mate who I've known for about 8 or 9 years (and who I thought I was good friends with) took off to Tampa, Florida to meet some guy she's been "dating" through world of warcraft. She didn't tell anyone she was leaving and only took $70 with her to pay for gas. When she realized that wasn't enough money, she called her mom and asked for $200. Of course that raised suspicions. I had already been worrying about where she had gone, as she had been away for about 5 hours and she's not one to drive. She told her mom that a friend from home and her had decided on a "whim" to go to Virginia. We later found out she was by herself and heading to Tampa. Apparently she was planning on blowing off finals this week to meet this boy and no one would have been able to find her if she had been hurt. Who knows who this guy could be! Her mom ended up convincing her to turn around and come home. She had already hit Virginia and didn't get back until almost 1:30 at night. She openly lied to me about who she was with and where she was going and caused me to worry that the worst had happened. I was ready to call the police and put out a missing person's report. It's now sunday and she's back. Before school ends I have to talk to her and I'm really not looking forward to it. She is an adult, and frankly she can do what she wants to do, but she should not have taken off like that and then later lied about where she was going. Surprisingly I'm not mad, but I am very very disappointed. I also know she needs help. Her World of Warcraft addiction is as bad as someone on drugs. She sleeps all day and stays awake all night talking to guys. She's missing out on life and ignoring the people around her. I'm hoping this episode was enough to get her mom to do something about it. Her mom is a wonderful person, but sadly I don't think anything will change. So anyways, I am waiting until my other two room mates leave at some point during the next three days and I am planning to talk to her in private. I don't want to sound like I'm butting into her business, but I want to let her know where I stand. I am setting up an appointment with a counselor I work for to get ideas how to approach my friend about her addiction. I probably will not be able to change her, but at least I can let her know how I feel. Oh how I am not looking forward to this. Sometimes I feel like I care too much, and I always get hurt in the end. My dad tells me this, but I always feel that maybe, just maybe I can help make a difference in someone's life. It gets tiring after awhile to always feel like I have to be the bigger person. If anyone has experience dealing with things like this, please let me know. I don't want to see my room mate get hurt, even if she did lie to me. Unfortunately in the end, if she gets hurt, she gets hurt but at least I can say I didn't just stand around and let it happen.