Hubby and I are in a dilemma. He said he thinks she should not have ANY Christmas presents because she has been BAD all week. Then when dd and I go to my folks for Christmas party, he will put her presents under the tree, ready for her when she comes home from the party. As for me, I do not like this idea at all even I know she has been bad. She was just diagnosed with ADD, will start on her meds on Sunday at the doctor's recommendation....she was a 9 on the Cooper's test scale. I do not like her getting up, seeing NO presents under the tree, I would still give her presents and enjoy the fun like I have when I was growing up. Even she was bad. And how would it affect her if my relatives asked her what she got for Christmas.....nothing and they would look at me like I was crazy which it was NOT my idea at all. If hubby insist no presents, then I will give her MY presents to her and let her be happy whatever Santa and I gave her. I am not wanting to deprive her of the wonders of Christmas, despite how bad she is. I don't think she really believes Santa 100% and she knows there is a "fake" person under the costume, just as much as our Lincoln impersonater. Should I go ahead and give her the gifts, letting her know the real meaning of Christmas with a possibility of questioning Santa? She is six years old. do you give presents to your "bad" kids anyway? or how would you rationalized presents associating with goodness and badness?