New house or chickens?

Discussion in 'Random Ramblings' started by Western Chick, Feb 23, 2009.

  1. Western Chick

    Western Chick Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Okay, so this is a little bit of a venting thread but maybe someone out there has been through this and can offer some advice.

    Since DH and I got married 8+ years ago we've said that someday we'll build a house on a 6-acre piece of land less than a mile from where we live now. We love where we live now but the 100+ year old house is not worth putting money into fixing. Plus our cattle are housed on the current site and I don't care to put $100,000+ into a remodeling project (figuring new siding, windows, basement and an addition) just to have a modest old house that overlooks a dirty, smelly feedlot.

    The good thing about where we are now is that I can have all the animals I want, we have plenty of outbuildings to house them and one more chicken doesn't really make the place smell that much worse.

    So, despite the rotten ecomony, DH and I are blessed with decent stable jobs and it's looking like it might be a good time to think about building that "dream" house...(My dream house now is something that actually keeps the wind from blowing in.)

    I've come to the realization that if we move, my goats will have to stay at the old place...DH thinks they're too smelly to have at our new house...I beg to differ, but oh well, they'd be close enough to tend on a daily basis anyway.

    Yesterday he dropped the bomb...before he signs a note on a new house all the chickens must be gone, I thought that's fine, they'll stay at the old place with the goats, but no. He means no more chickens AT ALL!

    He's never really cared for my poultry but he tolerates it. He hates their fresh eggs and makes me buy "real" eggs from the store for him to eat. [​IMG] I just don't get it.

    It's been absolutlely eating me up inside. I can't stand the thought of not having chickens to entertain me. I love looking out the window to see the them happily scratching and dust-bathing in their coop, and the joy of the daily treasure hunt when we go to gather eggs.

    So I'm torn, maybe DH will come around. It doesn't seem fair though.
     
  2. ksacres

    ksacres At Your Service

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    [​IMG] Wow. Sorry you are being forced to choose between two things you want. Maybe there's a compromise in there somewhere? Maybe cut down on numbers/breeds?

    He's basically blackmailing you, remember, US citizens don't negotiate with terrorists... [​IMG]
     
  3. wegotchickens

    wegotchickens DownSouth D'Uccles & Silkies

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    Wow. Doesn't seem fair to have to leave the chickers behind altogether. Maybe he secretly doesn't want a new house, and this is his way of not making an actual decision?
     
  4. Western Chick

    Western Chick Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Quote:I might have to use this one him!

    I had another thought too...I've been trying to get him to quit chewing Copenhagen since we got married... [​IMG] If he actually succeeded in that I might be willing to give up the chickies, I HATE that stuff! (plus I know he'll never be able to quit [​IMG] )
     
  5. vfem

    vfem Yoga...The Chicken Pose

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    My suggestion is this... convince him to have a small coop, enough to hold say 2 hens and call it done!

    Come on... dream house... chickens....

    There has to be some negotating space. My husband was NOT happy about chickens, but he dared me...so I got them... then he regretted making a joke of it because he knew how far I was going to go. However, I've gotten him to really enjoy the chickens too. Its come a long way. Though, I'm pretty sure if I had more then the 5 I have he'd go nuts... I think my ducks are not pleasing him at all [​IMG]
     
  6. WoodlandWoman

    WoodlandWoman Overrun With Chickens

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    Do you have a lot of chickens? Do they free range and poop on the patio or is their run smelly or something? If there's some type of issue like that, I'm sure you could have fewer chickens at the new house or set them up in a way to prevent the problem.

    If there's no real problem other than he doesn't see any value in having them, then I think he needs to understand that their value is that they are important to YOU. That having them brings you happiness, every single day of your life. If that means nothing to him, then I think you have more things to talk about than chickens. Maybe he should spend some time thinking about that.

    It'll be your house, too. How about if you keep some chickens there AND he stops spitting everywhere. Hmm, maybe that's a good position to start your negotiations from. [​IMG]

    Good luck!
     
  7. bheila

    bheila Chillin' With My Peeps

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    He makes you buy "real" eggs from the store? [​IMG] Sweetheart, why are you even doing that for him? I wouldn't go out of my way to do that when he has the choice to have perfectly fresh eggs from your hens. I think that that Copenhagen is seeping to his brain [​IMG] It sucks that you feel like you have to make a choice between 2 things that mean a lot to you. If it was me, I wouldn't stand for that bologna!! I'd just say too bad honey. Your husband obviously hasn't gotten used to saying "yes dear" often enough. [​IMG]
     
  8. roosty

    roosty Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Quote:I second that!!!
     
  9. AngieChick

    AngieChick Poultry Elitist

    Quote:I agree. And would like to add that you are not a child, and should not be treated like one.

    Good luck, I am sure that once he sees what your chickens mean to you he will understand. My DH didn't really want chickens, but the deal was that if I build the coop and am primary caretaker that I would get them. And that's what happened, now he adores them. Perhaps you need to make sure that he knows that what he would have to build would be minimal?

    And yes, buying him eggs when you already have some is a ridiculous request.
     

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