I think my husband finally got my point and my daughter knew all along. I moved to Florida to be near my parents. The reality is that if they decided to move to Las Vegas, they would just pack up and do it. All along , and I'm 55, I thought family and holidays was most important. It's really not to anyone but me. I am feeling sorry for myself, no doubt. My sister, kids and grandkids on their side are having Christmas eve dinner at my niece's . I was wondering if I'd be invited. I was but in the interim I find out that my parents would have gone anyway because they "don't want to make waves in the family." So I guess I was to understand that they would still go if I hadn't been invited. (My invitation was last minute). I'm so "happy" to find that I'm not all that important. My father says "well we had only you and hubby for Thanksgiving", like it was well planned that if I missed Christmas, it was an even share. But did they mention that their Thanksgiving friends for the last 10 years were invited elsewhere? Did they mention that others in the family couldn't make it? It was a lie. This is not about my niece and invitation to their house. This is about me thinking that I was more important to my parents than I thought. I'm kind of upset about the whole thing and really don't want to go . My daughter in Texas says to me "well you finally saw what I've been trying to tell you". I just don't know if I'm upset over nothing.