This has been an extremely rough year for my cousins Ashley and Sean. I asked for prayers last month when their father was diagnosed yet again with cancer, and then had to undergo his 13'th surgery in 15 years to have another mass removed, and then because of all the scar tissue there were serious complications and he nearly died. I was talking to Sean last night when he told me that he hasn't been feeling well lately, he keeps getting sick and suffering flu like symptoms, and a rash on his face. The rash won't go away. So he went to the doctor and the doctor did some blood tests, both of which say he has Lupus. Sean won't admit it, but from the tone of his voice I know he's scared. He's set to go to a Dermatologist on December 2nd. I'm sure the next step after that will be a visit to an immunologist. He's so drained right now, doesn't feel well at all, and now he doesn't want to step out in public, other than to go to work, because of this rash. He's such a beautiful young man too. He'll be 22 the day after Thanksgiving. Due to family problems when he and his sister were little, they came to live with my family for awhile, and for about the first 5 years of his life I practically raised him, and I look at him more like my son than my cousin, and knowing he's in pain and scared, it breaks my heart. I'm asking for prayers for him. He was sure he'd develop cancer before he'd ever develop anything else. Ashley has been having colonoscopies done regularly for about 3 years now (she'll be 26 on December 18th) because the colon cancer their dad has they were told is quite possibly hereditary. Ashley has already inherited her father's arthritis and has it in her spine, hands, elbows, knees, and hips. And she started to go gray at 18 like her dad too. There's just a lot of health problems on their dad's side of the family. Sean worries about what could pop up, but he admitted Lupus was never something he ever suspected he would develop. I'm on pins and needles and will be until he goes to the doctor and finds out for sure. Please keep him and his family in your prayers. I haven't talked to my aunt yet, but I know she's upset. Sean is her baby. Does anyone here live with Lupus? Could you tell me anything that I could pass along to him? He's scared of dying, and I don't blame him. My kids have cousins (first and second cousins to their dad), a mother and both her daughters that had Lupus. The mother lost one daughter before I met them, and about a year or so after I met them, the mother died from complications from the Lupus. But my friend's brother was diagnosed with Lupus about 15 years ago and he's doing fine, so I don't know what causes flares, or how to deal with them, or what Sean should do to stay healthy. He eats pretty good, works out, and is a fit 170 lbs at 5 ft 8. Not an ounce of fat on that boy. Oh, and does getting tattoos have any effect on Lupus? He got one a few months ago, and that coincides with right about when the first symptoms really began to show themselves. Are you born with Lupus? Does it suddenly just occur? Are there triggers? I know NOTHING about that disease other than about the rashes, joint pain, and I believe I read that swollen glands are a symptom, and a feeling of being run down. I know it's autoimmune. And that's about the extent of my knowledge. Any info that I could pass along to him would be much appreciated, thanks. And please keep him in your prayer! He's also complaining of a weird pain in his neck that he sometimes wakes up with, but that doesn't go away like a crick in the neck usually does. Thank you friends!