on thanksgiving, i invited my step dad (well, he was when he was with my mom, she died in 96.) and his wife over for dinner. she has a 16 year old son from her previous marriage, and i thought maybe he could hang out with my almost 16 year old and play video games, talk, whatever. well, he walks in dressed like a thug..backwards ballcap, saggy pants, you know the look..well, i ignored it and went on with what im doing. the next thing i know is i hear the "s" word coming from my sons room so i go in and ask who said it and it was this boy! his mother laughed and said she lets him cuss! then he goes outside and lights up a cigarette..i about died over that one, and said "hey, your kid is outside smoking!" and she told me that she lets him because all long time smokers start early..she threw out the old "i would rather him do it around me than go behind my back" excuse..i later find out that he was bragging about doing drugs to my other kids. needless to say, they wont be coming back ever. what i am wondering is if it is normal for teen boys today to be allowed to cuss, and basically do whatever they want..my kids have a few friends that are basically left to their own devices and their parents let them cuss. they know not to try it in my house but i am just wondering if i am just weird,old fashioned, or what. we home schooled up until this year, so i am learning all kinds of new things about kids that i didn't know before, that's for sure! my kids are far from innocent, but this whole child acting like an adult thing is just bizarre. i just cant see letting kids behave this way!