My brother was married two years ago in Oct. It has never been a good marriage, his wife is never with him and goes out with her friends all of the time and never wants to spend time with my brother. She couldn't even be there for my brother when my mom was dying. She was too stressed and needed and still does go to the gym everyday, go out with her friends, or do other activities without him. They never see each other and they have been having problems for a while. He lets her walk all over him and never says a word. Needless to say no one in the family likes her she never makes an effort we do so much stuff for the two of them and she never offers to help us out with anything. Even her own surprise party she was throwing for my brother my hubby, sick mother with cancer and I did all of the work and made all of the food she made not one thing while she showed up an hour before the party. We set the food up and cleaned up and when someone asked her about whether they were going to take care of our dog for a week while we were on vacation she simply said "No they are not my family" That was the last straw of attempting to be nice to her. Ever since they first started dating anytime it comes to our family functions she always has a headache or is sick unless she knows other guys will be there so she can flirt with them. She always has to be the center of attention for guys. But for my brother's sake we all put on a show of trying to incorporate her and be nice to her. I cannot do it anymore.............. Finally on Thanksgiving morning she told my brother she wants a divorce. Of course he is devastated, we all are happy because they are simply not meant to be he is 30 and wants to settle down and have kids and she "doesn't know who she is" and doesn't want kids. One minute they are getting a divorce and the next they are normal it goes back and forth and it is her fault. One minute she says she loves him and the next she says she is smothered and wants out. How she is smothered I do not know because she is never home nor spends time with him. The final straw was yesterday I called him to see if he was going to come out to dinner with us and he says Melissa is moving out we are getting a divorce and he also calls my one brother and tells him. So here I am feeling bad because it is right before Xmas and our mom just passed away and he thinks his world is ending and feeling bad that I am happy that they are ending it. Then he calls back an hour later that he isn't coming to dinner because him and her are ordering a pizza?!?!? What the Heck, this is how it has been for the last month, he is so depressed he has had to go on medicine and he never know what mood she is in. She sees a counselor weekly and doesn't want to go to marriage counseling because she already goes to a counselor once and week and doesn't want to work on their relationship.... I am so ready to kill one of them because I can't stand seeing her do this to him or him letting her walk all over him!