So a LOT has happened. first off. recap the thread made on 9/14 https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?pid=4824631
things have changed so drasticly .
my best friends 'boyfriend' left her. thats it . just up and left. 'J' called me the day after he left. she was in the hospital in early labor. crap . of course i speed to the hospital!!!
when i get there and make sure she is ok. she tells me that 'R' left her. she is very apologetic about many things, first of explained that 'R' was very possesive over the fact that 'J' and i are sooooo close. since 'R' had no job he was there all the time and 'J' explained that if she was on the phone, he would go NUTS because she wasnt paying attention to him!! i have also learned that he was abusive more than one time with her.
i of course forgave her. many say im to kind hearted but, i too was in a abusive relationship and was not 'allowed' to contact my friends.
now, the house they were living in is 'R's aunts house. so, betcha u cant guess what happens next. 'J' got evicted. so here she is 34 weeks pregnant and she is being thrown on the street. i have a few spare rooms (one of which has all the baby stuff i have bought in it) and i offered to let her move back in with me ( she moved in with me a year and a half ago and shortly after met 'R' and moved in with him)
she accepted and we are in the process of moving her stuff in.
so far i have learned many things. 'r' would always drop her off at work in HER car and pick her up. 'j' wasnt allowed to just go for a drive. 'r' told her that only FAMILY matters and that it was time for her to ONLY focus on her family.
she tells me that she wanted to ask me to do the baby shower, but 'r' wouldnt hear of it.
i know 'r' and this seems very much like him!! he can be a (&*#&%^$#%%0) i warned her when she first started dating.
with less than 6 weeks left in her pregnancy, we are on a time crunch. talk about crazy!
things are pretty much back to being the same now, other than some depression and many crying sessions between the 2 of us.
i believe that the little baby (boy) will come early. she lost her mucous plug on sunday
thank you all for your support!! i greatly appreciate it
i will keep you all updated on the happenings in the next few weeks!
things have changed so drasticly .
my best friends 'boyfriend' left her. thats it . just up and left. 'J' called me the day after he left. she was in the hospital in early labor. crap . of course i speed to the hospital!!!
when i get there and make sure she is ok. she tells me that 'R' left her. she is very apologetic about many things, first of explained that 'R' was very possesive over the fact that 'J' and i are sooooo close. since 'R' had no job he was there all the time and 'J' explained that if she was on the phone, he would go NUTS because she wasnt paying attention to him!! i have also learned that he was abusive more than one time with her.
i of course forgave her. many say im to kind hearted but, i too was in a abusive relationship and was not 'allowed' to contact my friends.
now, the house they were living in is 'R's aunts house. so, betcha u cant guess what happens next. 'J' got evicted. so here she is 34 weeks pregnant and she is being thrown on the street. i have a few spare rooms (one of which has all the baby stuff i have bought in it) and i offered to let her move back in with me ( she moved in with me a year and a half ago and shortly after met 'R' and moved in with him)
she accepted and we are in the process of moving her stuff in.
so far i have learned many things. 'r' would always drop her off at work in HER car and pick her up. 'j' wasnt allowed to just go for a drive. 'r' told her that only FAMILY matters and that it was time for her to ONLY focus on her family.
she tells me that she wanted to ask me to do the baby shower, but 'r' wouldnt hear of it.
i know 'r' and this seems very much like him!! he can be a (&*#&%^$#%%0) i warned her when she first started dating.
with less than 6 weeks left in her pregnancy, we are on a time crunch. talk about crazy!
things are pretty much back to being the same now, other than some depression and many crying sessions between the 2 of us.
i believe that the little baby (boy) will come early. she lost her mucous plug on sunday
thank you all for your support!! i greatly appreciate it
i will keep you all updated on the happenings in the next few weeks!