I say, sensitive, because it's me who's sensitive. When it comes to my father, I get very emotional, so please be easy on me. The situation is this: My father is of retirement age, but refuses to retire. He's a workaholic and always has been. He got remarried a few years back, so now even when he isn't working, he's spending time with his new young wife. He is always busy, busy, busy. I bought my own house recently, and if I need something, he will come help. He's there for emergencies or when I need any sort of assistance, but otherwise never comes to just visit. On Father's Day he came over to help me install a washer/dryer combo I had purchased. I felt bad that he was helping me on Father's Day, but thought it might be a good way to lure him to my house, and then when it was in place I could take him out to dinner (if I simply invite him without a "reason" he won't come... too busy.). No such luck. Once it was in place and I offered dinner at a restaurant, he said no way, that he was tired and wanted to go home. I felt horrible. That was not what I had in mind for Father's Day (the moving of the washer got more complicated than I had anticipated). So I explained that it was important to me that I take him out for a nice meal, and he said he had the next week or so off from work as a temporary layoff and that we could go sometime then. Never happened. I thought today of calling him and reminding him about dinner and trying to plan it for this weekend. Then I started to second guess myself. If he wanted to go to dinner, he would have probably called. I don't want to FORCE him to have a Happy Father's Day by cramming it down his throat if he'd rather be doing other things, you know? On the other hand, sometimes he needs to be forced, because he really is a workaholic and if he'd just stop to have dinner with me, I think he'd have a good time. What do you guys think? Should I push the issue with him and try and make him go have a nice dinner on me? Or should I back off, thinking if he's too busy, than it's not much of a gift to pressure him? I just want to do SOMETHING for him, and I'd also like to spend a little time with him. The only time I ever see him is when he's helping me out at my house, and that's not fun, it's work and him doing me a favor. I just want him to relax for once and have a nice time! Advice?