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Seriously, which would you choose?

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by herefordlovinglady, Jan 25, 2010.

  1. herefordlovinglady

    herefordlovinglady It Is What It Is

    Jun 23, 2009
    Georgia
    Scenario 1:

    Married to a man who is a good provider, you know for sure he loves you, and you love him: But, there is no romance, no companionship, no real communication (unless it is about his work and sometime youl tell him about your day), no sharing, no time spent together, he basically works 24/7 -- you exist alone, except for dinner time (you eat in the same room) and bed time (you sleep in the same bed). Your day consists of work 8 hours, take care and play with your critters, watch the chickens for a while, fix dinner, and go to bed (making all critters stay out of the bedroom).

    Scenario 2:

    Leave said man, miss some of the aspects of your life with him, move into a home where you will provide for yourself and your critters, basically be alone, your day will consists of work 8 hours, take care and play with your critters, watch the chickens for a while, work on a project, enjoy some quiet time by reading or doing whatever it is you want to do, have dinner, watch TV, and head off to bed (with all critters following).
     
    Last edited: Jan 25, 2010
  2. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

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    As long as there is love and respect in your relationship anything can be worked out...
    I'd stay and work through things, myself.
     
  3. Buff Hooligans

    Buff Hooligans Scrambled

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    Oh gosh. I wonder how many of us have contemplated the same two scenarios...
     
  4. HEChicken

    HEChicken Overrun With Chickens

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    It would depend on whether or not I had kids with said man. Even if I didn't, I'd probably attempt counseling in order to make the relationship more satisfying, but if that didn't work, I'd ask him if we could agree to split but remain friends.

    If I had kids with him, I would definitely try to make it work to stay with him given that the relationship is loving.
     
  5. Jess N Jeff

    Jess N Jeff Chillin' With My Peeps

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    There is something to be said for providing for yourself and being happy with who you are and where you are. Monitary comforts will not keep you happy for very long. Good luck with your choice. Regardless of your choice I hope you are happy!!!!
     
  6. Cloverleaf Farm

    Cloverleaf Farm Bearded Birds are Best

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    Well, I suppose it all depends on how much either of you want to work on it. Does he know that you are considering leaving? I had close to this same problem with my husband, it's much better now, and I am glad I didn't leave.

    Have you considered counseling? Even if he won't go, talking to a counselor on your own may help you make the right decision, and at the very least will help you better communicate with your husband.

    Good luck!! [​IMG]
     
  7. chickaddict

    chickaddict Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 4, 2009
    Bristol
    HE SOUNDS LIKE A GOOD MAN AND THEY ARE VERY RARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

    I wouldn't give up on him - I'd buy a wallbanger with bunny ears
     
  8. rodriguezpoultry

    rodriguezpoultry Langshan Lover

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    I'd stay. You can work on a relationship. If there's no relationship (you walking out), then there's no use in even attempting to repair it.
     
  9. key west chick

    key west chick Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 31, 2008
    Gainesville, GA
    I would stay. I'm sorta there now. We get along great, respect each other, but we just drifted apart. Neither one of us wants to leave really, we just exist. Kinda sad in a way, but right now, we dont feel like we are missing out on anything so its fine. We've been married for 16 years with 2 children.
     
  10. Katy

    Katy Flock Mistress

    A couple of questions for you.

    From your signature line I take it he is a farmer/rancher like we are....are you involved with that at all? Is that a new lifestyle for you or the way you were raised too?
     

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