Should I convince him to let me keep birds?

Discussion in 'Random Ramblings' started by Bettacreek, Oct 13, 2009.

  1. Bettacreek

    Bettacreek Overrun With Chickens

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    Alright, I asked the bf if I could get quail. He said no. A few days later, he mentioned something about my quail. I can't remember what it was, but it had sounded like he was assuming that I'd have some eventually. So, I waited awhile, then mentioned them again. I got a no. His brother told me that if I ask every once in awhile, he'll say yes. His brother has no issues with it (his brother lives with us), and supports my side, since quail really don't make much noise, don't need much space, and because I'd be caring for them completely and they'd supply a little bit of food for the family. BF's only issue that he has brought up is because they make noise... I've explained to him that they really don't, made him listen to the crowing on video, etc. Now, BF is reasonable, generally, if there isn't an issue or a reason to say no, he won't. Before I moved in, I had been living with my mother. She made me get rid of my three remaining button quail and my female dove. I almost cried when I had to get rid of them, and he said "just wait, be patient, we plan on having you move in at the end of November". Plus, he had mentioned something about building pens when we went to drop the birds off at my friend's place. He's not the kind of guy who makes comments like that when he doesn't mean it. So... I REALLY want to raise quail again. I mean, really, really. His brother keeps telling me to keep asking him. I dropped a few hints, like, I had one of his friends ask him when the quail pens were being built (as a joke), and later put a picture of baby coturnix quail as the background for the computer (it's still there, btw). I would be caring 100% for the birds, neighbors wouldn't be an issue, plus I can get eggs free, I still have a brooder, incubator/hatcher and some of that type of stuff. I would need to build a pen, but he can get free scrap lumber. That would leave me with needing wire, which is $7 and the feed, which is $17/50lbs. Maybe a tin roof, depending on what he can find. Anyways, I'm not sure if I should press it or not. [​IMG] I really don't understand what the issue is, however, I don't want to treat him with disrespect either... Any advice?!
     
  2. Tala

    Tala Flock Mistress

    You're asking the wrong group of people!!


    My hubby's response to the new chicks in the living room: "You're a dead woman!!"

    but no really, he's ok with them when they don't wake him up. lol
     
  3. saddina

    saddina Internally Deranged

    May 2, 2009
    Desert, CA
    I'm no help I would've said, baby I'm getting some quail next week, can I borrow your drill?
     
  4. Bettacreek

    Bettacreek Overrun With Chickens

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    Lol. Tala, this is exactly the group to talk to. You guys know how bad that itch is to have birds. If I had asked another group, they'd probably think that I was a jerk or an idiot, lol.
     
  5. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    He has to understand that this important to you and respect it, just like you are respecting him by asking permission. If that doesn't work, do it anyways. Easier to ask forgiveness than persmission. [​IMG]
     
  6. saddina

    saddina Internally Deranged

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    Quote:Deb there's a reason we get along so well....

    she's been asking, it's now time to move onto telling.
     
  7. MaggieRae

    MaggieRae Chillin' With My Peeps

    Apr 12, 2009
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    Quote:Always. [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG]
     
  8. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    I don't have that problem with Ken - he start the whole chicken thing.
     
  9. Tala

    Tala Flock Mistress

    Lol. Tala, this is exactly the group to talk to. You guys know how bad that itch is to have birds. If I had asked another group, they'd probably think that I was a jerk or an idiot, lol.

    So you really don't want advice

    What you're asking for is enablers!

    In that case, you've come to exactly the right place!


    Quote:I agree!​
     
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  10. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

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    I agree, you went about it all wrong..
    you tell him..dont ask. Tell him that your getting them..its your home too.
    And that you'll be responsible for them all. Youre an adult..dont ask permission for anything..
     

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