OK, moms and dads, I am paranoid about my 5 year old DD and wanted to teach her to do the right thing and avoid things that would happen or might happen. What are the right things to say to her if you do not want anyone else (including males or any male familyand friend members or a disturbed female member) about the touching of private parts. I know her family doctor is allowed to inspect private parts IF he sees something not right or some yeast infection going on due to her soapy baths. She will not give up her soapy baths so if you moms got something more gentle and does not give her yeast infections or bacterial infections, advise me of a product that she can play in the tub! I dont want to scare her about child molestors or worse but how would I explain to her to tell her parents if something is just not "right"? I have seen this from time to time and it makes me nervous. People giving my DD hugs, innocent it may be but it makes me uncomfortable. It is the people, total strangers would give her a hug when asked but I know my hubby does this too. Can people be too over friendly (crossing boundaries?) and that is their nature?????? My hubby is very overfriendly to little girls too and I often tell him to back off because it makes the moms uncomfortable having a stranger asking her daughters for hugs. What is acceptable and NOT acceptable? Hubby thinks it does not hurt anyone and that is what we differ on that one about strangers hugging kids or telling kids to hug them. I know my hubby loves kids but not in a sexual way but loves to get down to their level and be a kid all over again, playing and rough housing with them. Now it is time to set boundaries. I do not want any moms getting mad at hubby for hugging her daughter or anyone else for that matter and hurt his pride. He loves his daughter with all his heart and hates child molestors and if they ever, ever hurt his daughter, he would go after them and they will be so sorry ever touching our DD that way. I know people do like hugs to relieve the stress and thoughtful in someone is caring for them or deep paternal or maturnal feelings toward a child. Some people are touchy feely as seen more often in older generation which they do reach out and touch people like myself as well. So what can a mother do?????????? What are the signs????????????? Not like looking for my dog or giving candy and money to a kid to do their dirty deed, thats old news but the new stuff out there is what troubles me. Having two girls being dead by kidnapping makes me wonder what the heck the world is coming down to!