Both are probably hatchery quality Wyandottes. The hen looks similar to my Silver Laced, albeit a little thinner and with a taller tail. Lots of hatchery Wyandottes lack the true round, fluffy shape of a purebred, show quality bird.
I think that you do have a hen. She is very masculine in appearance, but I'm not seeing the normal Silver-laced male color pattern, and there aren't any pointy hackle (neck) feathers or saddle feathers present.