So furious with my husband, I swear he sleeps on the couch tonight

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  1. HeatherLynn

    HeatherLynn Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I have never ever ever gone to bed mad at my husband in the last 12 years but by all that is holy I am going to bed mad tonight and maybe even the next night.

    So we are talking about again changing all our plans. Moving back into town, getting rid of my sweet chickens, putting the kids back in public school, finding child care for the youner 2, me getting a full time job. Essentially changing all our goals we have held for the last 12 years. So I am a bit upset and worried that this will be a permanent thing since once we put a plan in place it has always been more permanent than temporary. We might say its temporary but 12 years later... Anywho so I am trying to say that and he keeps telling me what I really mean. What I am really saying. Telling me that I am wrong about what I think I am trying to say. Like he knows what I am thinking better than I do. So he said I am not twisting what you say, I am listening. I said " yea your doing a wonderful job at listening" sarcastic of course. So he hangs up. I am the bad guy for trying to tell him what my issue is and then not accepting his interpretation of what I really think. I know my mind. I know what I mean and he was not listening. I hang up on him and its a major offense. Well baby the shoe is on the foot. I love him dearly but I am angry. He can sleep at work for all I care and he can stay there until he decides to listen instead of telling me what I think. So steamed.

    Sorry I have to rant. So mad.
     
  2. annie3001

    annie3001 My Girls

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    i know you want to "rant" i would look for another "type" of forum....to do this....


    just sayin;)
     
  3. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

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  4. Cindiloohoo

    Cindiloohoo Quiet as a Church Mouse

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    Wow. Sorry your having a crappy day. I hate changing plans too. I went back to work after being a SAHM homeschooling our two, and it was not easy. At least I understood the reason and wasn't just "tuned out" while I said my piece though. Maybe he's just stressed, and you sound stressed too hun. Hope the night gets better. I'd write him a note and leave it on the table with his dinner calmly explaining how I felt, and hope he comes to you to sort through this and apologize for buttin in and not letting you say what you felt you needed to. [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG]
     
  5. ChickensAreSweet

    ChickensAreSweet Heavenly Grains for Hens

    The thing that always helps me is to keep saying over and over "This too shall pass."

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  6. Cindiloohoo

    Cindiloohoo Quiet as a Church Mouse

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    Maybe felt it wasn't family friendly, but this is what REAL families are like sometimes, so I say vent away, but be prepared to get several different opinions on your rant [​IMG]
     
  7. WriterofWords

    WriterofWords Has Fainting Chickens

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    Sometimes we just have to let off steam! Steam away!
     
  8. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

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    Heather.. i dont blame you one bit for being upset...
    First.. you guys had great plans! You were going to building a house on your parents property ..etc... right?
    I dont blame you for not wanting to move to the city... I simply would not do it... [​IMG]
     
  9. theoldchick

    theoldchick The Chicken Whisperer

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    Tell me about it! Hubby spent the last 12 years learning how miserable a country gal can make one feel when forced to live in crowded conditions. Lesson he learned: Never try to make a spouse something they ain't. Gotta adapt and make changes but have to draw the line somewhere. Marriage-ugh-so much hard work!
     
  10. silkiechicken

    silkiechicken Staff PhD Premium Member

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