Just needed somewhere to let off some steam. My almost 22 year old brother will be a father in just a few months...I'm almost 25 and want to be a mother more than anything in this world. I KNOW I have several years left to plan for a child, I know I should be in my own home before then, and should have a good bit of $ saved up...I've been told and know all the *precautions* but this doesn't make me feel any better when just thinking about how I despiratly want to be a mom, to have a little mini me the joys and the stress...(I'll take it all) makes me cry. Plus the fear that when we DO have enough money, when we DO have our own house what if it's too late for MY body (fear of endometriosis here) my mom lost a baby inbetween my bro and I. I haven't talked to my brother much since the last time him and his wife came to visit. His wife doesn't like my brothers family (me...hubby, my mom my dad etc) so my brother barely ever talks to us, esp me....which is really a good thing ever since they got pregnant because i think I would bust out bawling and have no explaination to tell him why....though I believe it's jealousy.... and a sort of *this is not right* issue going on with me. I'm the older sibling, I never ever thought that my brother would be a daddy before i'd get to be a mother. That's besides the point though. If my brother wasn't going to be a dad I'd still feel like I feel, it just adds to it... when I found out my brother was going ot be a dad, I broke down bawling, I couldn't even be happy for him (he didnt tell me, my mom and dad told me he hasn't talked to me about being a dad... maybe he knows how i feel or maybe his wife is completley telling him to cut all ties with sissy...i dont know he's in another state and he and I really started drifting apart anyhow after he came back from Iraq).
I don't know why im posting here really I'm just so sad, broken, incomplete. I'm doing great selling my birds, and am finnally in a hobby that is starting to pay for itself!
However I cannot be happy. Hubby was layed off a few weeks ago due to the economy problems so we are collecting unemployment until they start back up hpefully soon but looking more like in june. Litterally a week before the lay off we were doing the motions into getting our first home.. we had to hault all plans of that with our realitor once that happened and now our house downpayment is being slowly eaten away by bills we need to pay. It really hurts (emotionally). We will be okay, but my husband works SOO hard for us, for me, and he almost got us our dream but it was ripped right out from under us and with it my dream of being a mother.
They fear that evenif they do go back soon that they will be layed off again in november... so that means even when he starts making good money again whats the point of trying to look for a house again, what's the point of getting my hopes up of being a mother finnally.
You don't know how bad I wish I could just plan a baby now in all this mess but i know I shouldn't but this pain in my heart is really causing me a ton of stress. Talking about it with hubby doesnt help because he doesn't have these feelings like I do....and that's not his fault. I have this little joke going with myself that I'm going to have a false pregnancy at the rate im going (wanting to have a baby so bad) I just remember my moms one dog going through that and I swear i've heard of it in humans...
Anyone else feel like this? Most of the time i don't even want to be around kids, or babies as the pain inside of me is just too much and I just want to remove myself from the area. I can't really be happy for anyone with a baby, I am, but at the same time it's killing me. Esp. those younger than me....or those my age with 8 year olds already. Here I am almost 25, when I pictured myself being a mother for the first time at 24...I KNOW...I KNOW only a year older but still it really hurts. I dont know if my "clock is ticking" or what, but i find myself almost every night crying silently to myself.... I wish so bad that I could find something to get my mind off the pain to be happy waiting. As I said my hobby makes me happy but it doesnt take away this pain.
*sigh*
I don't know why im posting here really I'm just so sad, broken, incomplete. I'm doing great selling my birds, and am finnally in a hobby that is starting to pay for itself!
They fear that evenif they do go back soon that they will be layed off again in november... so that means even when he starts making good money again whats the point of trying to look for a house again, what's the point of getting my hopes up of being a mother finnally.
You don't know how bad I wish I could just plan a baby now in all this mess but i know I shouldn't but this pain in my heart is really causing me a ton of stress. Talking about it with hubby doesnt help because he doesn't have these feelings like I do....and that's not his fault. I have this little joke going with myself that I'm going to have a false pregnancy at the rate im going (wanting to have a baby so bad) I just remember my moms one dog going through that and I swear i've heard of it in humans...
Anyone else feel like this? Most of the time i don't even want to be around kids, or babies as the pain inside of me is just too much and I just want to remove myself from the area. I can't really be happy for anyone with a baby, I am, but at the same time it's killing me. Esp. those younger than me....or those my age with 8 year olds already. Here I am almost 25, when I pictured myself being a mother for the first time at 24...I KNOW...I KNOW only a year older but still it really hurts. I dont know if my "clock is ticking" or what, but i find myself almost every night crying silently to myself.... I wish so bad that I could find something to get my mind off the pain to be happy waiting. As I said my hobby makes me happy but it doesnt take away this pain.
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