So what do I do now???

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by TCollier, Sep 27, 2010.

  1. TCollier

    TCollier Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Got in an arguement with my girlfriend of over a year because she was drinking (she was definitely tipsy) and driving my Jeep. She ask to use it again Sunday and I said after Saturday there is no way. So she has her son come pick her up and take her to her Dads. I do not get a call I do not get a txt or anything all day long. She will not answer my calls and then this morning I got ahold of her son and found out that she had been partying with a girlfriend of hers and an ex boyfriend of hers was there too and they were both pretty drunk and she ended up going and staying at his house last night. Keep in mind that this guy lives like 3 miles from my house and it wasn't like she could not call me for a ride home. Her girlfriends house is only about 5 miles from my house. How she got from her Dads to her girlfriends no one seems to know. After hearing that she was at her ex's I went on sprint.com and used the family locator which I keep active so I can keep an eye on my daughter and sure enough she was at his house.

    At this point after finding out she spent the night there with him I really don't think I want her around anymore but my judgement is really bad since I am pretty ticked off right now.

    Do I just change the locks and throw her stuff out on the porch or should I let her try to explain this one?
     
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  2. Show Me Chick

    Show Me Chick Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Well I would say she was cheating on you. If you stay with her I wouldn't be in a sexual relationship for at least six months and then have her get tested for std's. [​IMG]
     
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  3. TCollier

    TCollier Chillin' With My Peeps

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    It is just not worth it is it. I am pretty sure she was cheating on me. Can't prove it but I have my suspicions.
     
  4. turney31

    turney31 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Sep 14, 2008
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    Life is too short for all this drama! DWI is about as irresponsible as it can get. If she could stay the night at x's house, regardless of what she says happened, shows NO respect for you. You are a handsome guy, go find you a good woman. Thats my 2 cents worth.

    Micah
     
  5. babylady4

    babylady4 Mother Goose

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    Take a deep breath and calm down......... it sounds like you know what to do already.

    Wait until she comes home (sober) and calmly begin your discussion about her drinking problem/activities, and how this relationship is going to take a few steps back since she has broken your trust. If you believe she needs to leave then observe her packing her belongings with a wittness and escort her out. THEN change the locks. If she forgets anything she can call you and you can arrange to meet her at a mutually agreed upon location.

    Good luck.
     
  6. chicmom

    chicmom Dances with Chickens

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    Ummm, Tom.......There is no explanation for that behavior. Drunken partying and with an ex to boot! Put her stuff on the curb and consider yourself lucky to have learned how she "really is" before you guys got hitched!

    I'm so sorry this happened to you.......Just remember there are much better fish in the sea.......

    Sharon
     
  7. TCollier

    TCollier Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I really thought we had something. I worked and brought home the money. Whatever she needed she got. She took care of the house and cooked. I just don't understand. I was giving her a good and easy life that I know for a fact she never had before. I knew her from high school. She was abused physically and mentally and had to work 2 jobs to raise her kids on her own, but they are adults now and living on their own.
     
  8. luvchicks8

    luvchicks8 Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Hard as it is you need to let her go, this kind of behavior will continue and you were right to say no to her.
     
  9. turney31

    turney31 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Sep 14, 2008
    palestine texas
    I know it sounds crazy but there are women who thrive on the drama and BAD GUY. She had it made and it wasn't enough. RUN, FORREST, RUN! [​IMG] [​IMG]

    Micah
     
  10. Orchid

    Orchid Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 10, 2010
    North Central MN
    1. Drives Jeep while drinking

    2. Instead of apologizing profusely, argues about it

    3. Leaves and won't answer phone

    4. Partying with ex

    5. Stays at his house!?

    She doesn't sound like she is ready for any kind of mature, responsible relationship, while you sound like that is exactly what you want. At her age change - while possible - seems unlikely. I'd show her the door.

    I'm sorry. [​IMG]
     

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