I'm forming a new support group: Eternal Optimist Living With Depressed Pessimist "EOLWDP". I could use any helpful ideas about how to successfully live with someone who constantly thinks (and says) the sky is falling and we are going to be "selling pencils in the snow" (my term for their "we're going to lose everything" comments) and all is hopeless. I've tried humor, prayer, trying to lay out all the positives, rational debate, couples therapy - the list goes on and on. Do any of you live with someone who wants to dump their negative beliefs on you every day, all day long, and there's nothing you can say or do to change their minds or get them to stop? It's really hard to stay happy and whistle "Zip-A-Dee Do Da" all day when the person you love most (husband) is having a full blown panic attack over every little thing or is so depressed he can't function.