What's a nice way to put this? My DH sucks at choosing gifts for his DDs, the SIL and the grandbaby. He does good picking out things for me, because I let him know what I would like way ahead of time. This year, my main gift is the new puppy; even though the pup won't be ready for his new home until February. DH has already given me the money for him. Also, I pointed out to him an unusual windchime at Atwoods that I adore. That leaves the girls, the SIL and the grandbaby to buy for. The GS we can shop for together. That way I can point out to DH that the GS is sooo over sponge bob and has moved on to dragons and dinosaurs. I know exactly what his girls would like. DSD #2 needs a new, warm & snuggly bathrobe - her dog ate her old one. Also, she's very much into wolves and I've found a beautiful porcelian wolf totem necklace. DSD #1 has asked for subscriptions to GRIT and Mother Earth News magazines. I'm going to get those for her "just because" and not part of her Christmas gifts. For Christmas I know she would like an excellent cookbook (I'm thinking the Betty Crocker one) and a book on using herbs for medicinal and kitchen purposes. SIL's gift would still be up to DH. I haven't a clue on him, because we aren't that close. How do I convince DH to let me pick out gifts that the girls would really like without it seeming like I am trying to run the whole show? I talk to his girls daily, more so than he can or does and I've gotten a strong sense of their likes and dislikes. For example - his elder DDs name is Mandy, but she prefers it be spelled Mandi and has for many years. She tried changing it while she was still in middle school, but her mom told it that spelling was "trashy". DH never knew her preference until I pointed it out to him last year. The girls just tell me things they are not comfortable with telling their parents.