My 6 year old daughter is in first grade (she's the one in my current pumpkin avatar). She has a lot of different friends, but lately she's just been playing with one girl. Turns out the girl told Alana, "I don't like when you play with other people. If you play with other kids I won't be your friend." Emily was thinking about talking to the girl, her parents, or the teacher. I thought Alana should handle it. She's a very smart and strong willed girl (a problem when she was younger, but I think an asset to her personally as she gets older) and I feel she can resolve this on her own with some help. I sat her down for a daddy daughter date and we talked about the friend. I asked her how she felt when the girl says the things she does, and Alana said it makes her sad. We talked some more and then I had a quick GREAT idea!!! Alana LOVES to pretend. She's always acting out parts from movies, so I said (in a very cheerful voice) "Hey, let's play a game where I pretend to be her and you be you, okay? Me: "Alana, I don't like it when you play with other people." Alana: "I'm your friend, but I want to play with my other friends too." Me: "Well, if you play with other people I won't be your friend!" Alana: "I'm sorry, I have to do the right thing." I gave her a HUGE hug and high-5. I told her that her last part (I'm sorry, do the right thing.) could be used for anything where someone asks her to do something she doesn't want or shouldn't do. It went so well that we tried a few others. "Alana, let's go hurt this animal." "Alana, let's go smoke some cigarettes" etc. She got so into it, she started making up her own: "Daddy, say: 'Alana, let's leave the school during recess and go to the park." So I did, and guess her reply: "Did the teacher say it is okay? Did your parents say it is okay? I'm sorry, I have to do the right thing!" Did I mention, 6 years old!! I figure if we do drills enough she'll be pretty set for many of the life changing things that comes her way.