Back in 2005 DH's mother and brother passed away. As the sole heir, DH inhertited everything they had. Included in the bank accounts he inherited was the remaining portions of each of DH's daughters inheritence from their grandparents. By verbal agreement with his mom, DH was to give this to the girls when they requested it. In early 2006 DD #2 asked for the remainder of her inheritence to buy a car. She had grown tired of the classic '67 mustang DH had given her for her 18th birthday. DH gave her the remainder, around $20,000. Number 2 was having problems with her long term, live in boyfriend and had absolutely no credit record of her own, DH suggested she put the money in a bank account and have each months car payment automatically deducted to help her build her credit. Everything went fine for awhile until she decided to quit her job. Then without our knowlegde she lived on the car payment money until it ran out. When the money ran out and she was evicted from her rental home it was up to us to bring her back up here from Texas. Her new car was later re-possessed. She'd left the mustang with friends in Texas so she's been without transportation ever since. A few days after #2 requested the remainder of her inheritence #1 asked for hers, more than $20,000 to "go back to school". She had already been given part of her inheritence while her grandma was still alive to go back to college. She attended one semester the dropped out. DH gave #1 her money. Quite a bit later we learned that #1 hadn't used the money to go back to school at all. They were living in Texas at the time so we really didn't know what went on in their daily lives. She used it to pay for a tummy tuck operation because her husband didn't like the baby bump she had after giving birth to their son. Time goes by, DD#1 moves with her DH to New Mexico. Their marriage went south so it was up to us to arrange for her and the GS to move back here from NM. A short time later her DH followed her back here and they reconciled. At this point I didn't really care what they did as long as they weren't hitting their dad and I up for money. Then last night... Last night #1 sends me a text asking if it would be okay for her to come up here (finally! one request that I have made that they actually honored - calling before showing up!). When she walked in I saw the course schedule from the local community college in her hand and I knew what was up. The minute she sat down #1 starts bawling. She tells us that she wants to leave her husband (again!), but since she doesn't have a job and doesn't feel like she can get one without some college, she wants to go back to school first. I resisted the urge to tell her she blew that option back in 2006. Of course she wants her dad to give her the money for school. In more than 30 different ways her dad and I let her know we don't have the money to give. We could give her the money if we dipped into our savings but DH is set to retire in April 2012 and we need to hang onto that money. I just can't get my head around it! Never in my life would I have had the nerve to ask my father for things like that and at 49 years old I still don't have the nerve. I just don't get these kids.