We just had a new person come into the house. Her background is she's 20, has a 4 year old that is with her Wednesdays and every other weekend, and no job. She had an apartment but the ex fiance kicked her out. She's staying here while she saves up money for a place, she's my brother's best friend. The thing is no one else wants to ask her to do her part. I figured she'd at least do her own laundry! Nooooo she leaves them on the floor! I have to keep my room, the bathroom and living room straight, those are my chore rooms. She is sharing my room with me, because it's the only one 2 twin beds could fit in. I'm fine with that, but mom said it's too early to start asking her for help vacuuming, shampooing, and laundry. It's not like I'm asking her to do my clothes, just keep your nasty socks off my floor and make it into the laundry hamper. Make the bed before you get up to go sit on the couch. I don't mean to make her a slave, but everyone has to do their share, if you're not in school, you clean house, if you're not at work, you're at home keeping it together. She did go job hunting, but I asked her to make her bed up because a friend was coming over and she just looked at my brother who then told me to do it! I'm picky on how the house looks for friends, my room, my rules. I didn't ask her to come stay, I was nice enough to share my space. When is it too soon to start doing your part? In my opinion after your first night, you stay here, you help here. Mom and them seem to think differently, but in a 3 bedroom with 5-6 people depending if my cousin has chemo or not, there isn't enough space to let it get messy. My brother already shares his room with my cousin when he's here, my room is shared. We can't share anymore.