Thanks to all the great advice all of you posted on this topic , things are finally looking up ! I recently talked with "A"s mom for 45 minutes and between the 3 of us came up with a game plan ! Both houses have the same set of rules and consequences , and we are able to communicate together finally ! Although I know it will be VERY hard to coordinate at times, I'm glad that both parents are finally willing to realize that there is a problem and to do something about it . "A" isn't very happy about it , but the last couple of weeks has come to realize that she can't play us against each other . Hopefully with time, love and diligence we can steer her in the right direction ! On another note , I have a problem of a different nature that hopefully you guys can give me your wisdom on . My parents divorced when I was 16 and I only heard from my dad twice a year , I called and left him messages every week for 4 years and all I got from it was a short conversation twice a year . He moved up here 3 years ago and I thought things would be different . He started his own business and I helped him every chance I had . After I switched jobs I only heard from him 1 a month , and now that he has a girlfriend I haven't heard from him since my sisters b-day in August . I tried calling him to begin with and left messages which he never returned . He has known about the wedding all this time , and now it's down to the wire . I can't get a hold of him now even if I wanted to because he is switching cell phone companies the last I heard from my gandma . My dilemma is , I don't plan on inviting him to the wedding which is in less than 5 months . I feel that if he wanted anything to do with my life he would keep in contact with me , especially knowing I'm getting married . Why would I want anyone walking me down the aisle when they don't even know what's going on ! Am I wrong in my decision ? I've talked with family and friends and all agree with me . Just thought I'd bring in some fresh ears that aren't tied in to my situation to give me some advice . Sorry it's so long !