So it is time for my kids to participate in the classrooms annual secret gift giving. You pick a kids name and for 5 days you give a dollar gift,or a note for 4 days and a $5 gift on the last. Seems pretty simple. Alas, my dd has gotten a dud again this year. Yesterday was the first day, and her secret santa gave such a lame note.A roses are red poem written on the BACK of CRUMPLED paper. How sad my dd must have been while others enjoyed their candy,cards,and trinkets. One year her gift giver gave used items from around their house like a torn cat poster,and some religious/devotional sticker booklet WITH STICKERS MISSING. My dd always handles this with grace,but she does tell me at home how sad she was to see what others got compared to her. I don't know about other parents,but I make sure my kids give something nice every time. If they do a note it is NICE with drawings and even a candy taped to it. Gifting something from the home would be fine too as long as it does not look used in any way. I have taught them to take the other persons feelings into consideration,and THINK about how they would feel if they got that gift. I am disappointed the kids don't think about this.Everyone wants nice gifts each day,but some are not really thinking about what they are giving. I dread picking them up today and finding out she was disappointed again. Atleast this is her last year for this. We don't even have the money to be spending on others,but I feel the need to get them some little things today to make up for the thoughtlessness of others. Poor dd says," Ds got a note AND a gift and look what I got." She is the sweetest girl, and it just pains me that a classmate could care so little(once again) for her.Notes are expected,but geez that crumpled up paper was just absolutely horrid.It would have been better if she got nothing. If there was an option I would opt them out of this secret santa sillyness and send them to school with a gift I bought myself. I am getting them things,but it will not make up for the let down they go through at school when opening the secret gifts. I just keep telling them that unfortunately not all people care enough to give something nice.Those people WANT(and expect) sometime nice,but giving the same seems to be low on their list of priorities.