Never created a poll before, have an issue that's been bugging me, figured this was a good place get some input. I have three children, a DD age 6 and two DS ages 2 and 4. Both boys just had their birthdays this month. older DS was on the 10th and younger on the 19th. I won't go into details but my mother and I do not get along. I do not in any way keep the kids from her or say anything mean about her, we just do not get along. She does call and talk with the kids occasionally because she lives in North Carolina (we are in Ohio). Well, both birthdays have come and gone and no call, no card, nothing from my mom (and stepdad). My father, my grandmother, my brother and my mother in law all called, sent a card and were up for their party last weekend. My mother sent me an email the Tuesday before the party saying she would not be there but would be up this weekend (Oct 30) and would like to see the children and celebrate then. I have yet to hear back on specifics of that. In her email she did not ask me to relay a 'Happy Birthday' or 'I love you' etc to either of the boys. Part of me feels I'm being too hard as I already have a difficult relationship with her but another part of me is just angry for disappointing my kids! The 4yrDS actually asked several times why she didn't call for his birthday!? how am I supposed to answer that one? So, I'm asking all of you....should a grandparent call (or somehow acknowledge) their grandchild on their birthday?