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Wedding shower for an old woman.

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by debilorrah, Jun 10, 2012.

  1. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    My best friend is throwing a wedding shower for me, I would like it to be co-ed so the guys have a chance to get to know each other better.

    However, googling themes is bringing up stuff that I personally find hokey or too expensive for my friend to manage. I am 50 years old, I do not want a lingerie shower. I want stuff to replace the broken crap we have now. I do not want to have a "chef" party, or a martini bar - I am not 20 anymore.

    Any ideas from some of you more mature people?
  2. tinydancer87

    tinydancer87 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Apr 5, 2011
    SE Georgia
    I'm only 26, I got married three years ago. Our shower was for anybody that wanted to come, it was "a wedding shower" there was no lingerie, I didn't even have one of those. Men and women were there, we had a cute cake and finger foods, decorations were our colors (white and lavender), and we had the radio playing in the background. The gifts were stuff like cleaning supplies, blender, towels, etc. We had a registry at two places, and I probably didn't have more than 20 items on the lists. I HATE when people have a 10 page registry with $1 items listed.

    No theme, no silly games (I hate games, especially at baby showers). Everybody just socialized and had a great time. Only cost the price of the food and the few decorations.

    ETA: We used our church social hall, which was free, but I had a friend who had it a local restaurant, had the party room and paid for everybody's meal. I think they spent like $400.00.
    Last edited: Jun 10, 2012
  3. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    I don't mind the games that my friend comes up with, she is very creative. Our registry may be long but not a bunch of $1 items. There is a lot we have that is just old and broken down. That is one of the side effects of being broke. [​IMG]

    I am thinking about country garden for a theme, but everything I find online is sooooo over the top.
  4. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    Oh! I went to a baby shower yesterday and one game was really fun. There was a list of animals on one side and a list of what their offspring is called on the other and you had to match them up. I was the only one that got them all. Because everyone put down hatchling for penguin. WRONG, it's a chick!
  5. tinydancer87

    tinydancer87 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Apr 5, 2011
    SE Georgia
    Like Martha Stewart over the top, lol! Country garden.....I love sunflowers, and they last so well in arrangements, they can be cut when not fully open and will continue opening in the vase. And maybe incorporate some old rusty buckets or watering cans to hold the arrangements. Or old baskets. Or use artificial flowers, I did for my wedding and reception and it was so easy, catch a sale at the craft store. Thrift stores are my friend for DIY stuff!

    ETA: the baby animal game sounds pretty good, I just don't like "taste the baby food" Yuck!
    Last edited: Jun 10, 2012
  6. BusyBlonde

    BusyBlonde Chillin' With My Peeps

    Sep 18, 2011
    Bessemer City, NC
    I think country garden theme is great! Most of the people that will be coming to your shower probably know you/your situation, I'd ditch the on-line searches and go with what you know you/she can do. Country garden is kinda easy. Pretty potted plants or dried flowers, rustic accessories (think craft store or flea market), nothing fancy or expensive. I agree with finger foods. They're popular, easy to make, and can be inexpensive if you plan carefully.

    You don't need to make it girly, I like the idea of a co-ed shower, I think the more casual the better if you're including the guys. Ask for what you need. No one expects someone of our age to want new crystal and china, or stuff to establish a whole household. If someone asks your friend what you might need, visa gift cards and cash are always a good suggestion. ;) I don't take it as an insult if that's what someone can really use, as opposed to getting a git they may or may not really want.

    A friend of mine is really good at country casual. She would look at things from the pottery barn catalog and make some of the items herself. One thing that sounds like it would really fit your potential theme was that she took three small glass bottles of slightly different size, wrapped silver wire around the necks to attach them together, and put different dried flowers in the three bottles. It would be lovely as table centerpieces.
  7. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    I will be asking for things like a new coffee maker, a toaster oven because Ken cannot handle the gas oven (weird thing is everything online says to get rid of a gas oven for people with emphysema), toaster, stuff we either don't have or needs to be replaced. And camping gear. [​IMG]
  8. Carols Clucks

    Carols Clucks Chillin' With My Peeps

    Oct 13, 2010
    Our summer plans include garden parties. Mom wants to have her friends over and I am going to have a "big" birthday. Her house is tiny and we have spent 6 years cleaning the lot from a bad episode of hoarders to almost a cute yard. It is designed to have "rooms"' so a variety of places to sit either under trees, by the coop etc.....

    I set up a table with food, potluck style and plug in the crock pots. Makes lift easy and food stays hot. I don't think we have yellow jackets, but if you know your location will have them, I would start trapping them now.

    I string Christmas Lights in the trees etc, we have a fire pit, marshmallows and etc. I have used canning jars for flowers, lemonade to drink, very casual. But for my "Jubilee" birthday, I am thinking of having the gals wear some funky large hats and decorate with flowers and the guys with black top hats (pretty cheap on amazon)

    I would totally make sure it was a co-ed party, you can always suggest a small gift card to a couple of places, so you can pick out the right things for Ken (Costco, Bed Bath..Home Depot) that kind of stuff.
  9. debilorrah

    debilorrah The Great Guru of Yap Premium Member

    We are going to register together, which should be interesting to say the least. I will be in the kitchen department and he will be in camping.
  10. gryeyes

    gryeyes Covered in Pet Hair & Feathers

    When friends asked what sort of retirement-slash-housewarming party I wanted, the only thing I REALLY want is a collection of EASY recipes. I kinda thought a potluck of "Your own favorite easy recipe" and provide a printed copy of that recipe so I can try it/them would be nifty.

    But what do I know about such things? I'm gonna be 59 in a couple of months and do NOT really need gifts for my house. Hence the suggestion of recipes.

    In your case, Debi, I think Country Garden is a wonderful theme.

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