Hi BYC, I'd love to hear some stories of a time when "mama bear mode" kicked in for you over something that happened to your child, and what it made you feel like physically. Whenever a kid is mean to my kid (who is honestly too young to really understand how mean others are being, so it doesn't hurt him much), it really, really upsets me. Sometimes, my reaction is justified (when someone threatened to kill him and shot him in the face with a homemade arrow) and other times it's not (shoving him off a lap when he tried to cuddle with the wrong kid, making fun of his name and calling him bad names). I try very hard to keep my reactions under control and be the grown up. I try not to give in to the temptation to hurt a child's feelings because they hurt my child's feelings. What really gets me though, is how deeply it affects me and how visceral and physical my reaction is. It's a complete, primal, uncontrollable, adrenaline rush. I get tunnel vision on the perpetrator, my pulse gets loud in my ears so that it dampens my hearing, I sometimes even see red! My blood pressure and heart rate shoot up, my head and heart pound, and I get shaky in my voice and limbs. After the fact, I get sad, depressed, nauseous, and so exhausted that I could crawl under the covers and fall straight to sleep. The feeling of anger and shakiness lasts a long time. I need a hot cup of soothing herbal tea and some chocolate to feel better. All of this, and my kid may not have even noticed the slight at all! I do my best not to clue him in to the fact that something bad happened if he didn't notice it. I don't want him to learn hypersensitivity from me. And here's the kicker: I'm a total pacifist. I've been repeatedly complimented for my calm and stable personality and for how well I can control my emotions and reactions. I always look for the best in others, and even when the things they do seem indefensible I'm always trying to envision a scenario that would explain and justify their actions. I'm always looking to give folks the benefit of the doubt instead of jumping to the worst possible conclusion. I really try to assume the best instead of the worst. But when it comes to my kids, it really gets my ire up, very quickly, and with very little provocation. Does this happen to other people, or do I need to see a doctor?! Let's all vent, please! What minor incidents set off your mama bear instinct, whether justified or unjustified, and what did it do to you physically?