We've been friends for 25 years. That is a long time and LOTS of water under the bridge. BUT, she's now 47 years old and she hasn't changed. SHe has always been very smart and pulled together in some areas, but her focus has always been on her relationships. She has a great job, and it pays well, but she admits she only does what she has to do to keep the job. SHe has no ambition in that area. If there was an arena full of wonderful men and one jerk - she'd find the jerk. Over and over and over and over..... So many times I have told her that the problem remains hers to fix. There is no perfect guy, she needs to be a whole person, happy in herself, to find love. Frankly, I am just tired of the ride, y'know? She refuses to even consider that maybe she could use some help. I told her the other day, in absolute frustration, that insanity is defined by doing the same thing over and over expecting different results! Her response? "I won't be doing the same thing - what I really need to do is start hanging out in classier places so I'll meet better guys!" She has no hobbies, no interests, no focus on anything except getting married and having kids. Did I mention she's 47?!?! It's not that she can't find love at 47 my aunt got married for the first time at 52! It's that she's not whole and she acts like a loon in a relationship. Is there any way I can salvage this friendship? How can I say I want to be left tout of her relationship nonsense when that is pretty much her everything?