and want opinions just to get mad at what is said and say mean and hurtful things to the people who reply? I think if you can't sort out the good and well meaning advice/opinions from the others, then people shouldn't post. When posting please remember that everyone was raised different. Different culture, different parenting styles, etc. If a reply is made and you aren't sure about it, p.m. the poster and ask. Don't start making accusations and getting all nasty. Just say, I took this, this way...how did you mean it. Sometimes I will reply and it just don't come out the way I mean. It is hard sometimes to post when you only see words and can't hear the voice, tone etc. Sometimes people has a sense of humor that is different. I myself have a wicked warped sense of humor. I am not trying to get an argument started. Just stating that sometimes think before you get defensive or down right snarky. If you have questions please pm that person and get things clarified. Sometimes an explanation will clear things up.