My wife has a son who is 22 years old and in college. He lives off campus at school and is not at home much.My wife talks about her son all of the time like he is 8 yrs old. There is not a day goes by that she does not say something about her "little boy". At Christmas time when shopping she would look at infant toys and exclaim how her son would have loved one of these when he was little. My problem with all of this is that she coddles him and gives him everything (Food, money, clothes internet). He calls she gives. He does not and has never had a job. He does not have a drivers license. Last summer he wanted to live on his own and get a job. Well he claimed he couldn't find a job but he still lived on his own. His mother paid for everything (rent,food, fun money). By my estimation she gave him around $11,000 in the past year. And that does not include money to pay tuition or books. She works but does not make a lot of money. Basically she gives him all of her money that she earns. I have a child from previous marriage that is 12 and lives with us. I pay all of the bills. There are times that I run out of money and can't buy food for us and she has no money to buy food because she has given it to her college son. I am at my wits end. This has been going on for 3 years. When we got married 3 years ago I never dreamed this would happen. I love this woman but I resent her son and I am starting to resent her. What should I do? I Have complained in the past and things get good for a couple of months then back to the same old. Will this woman ever change or should I give up and boot her and her son.