wives/fiances/girlfriends: any advice for getting my BF to finish coop

Discussion in 'Coop & Run - Design, Construction, & Maintenance' started by NewChickenMom, Nov 19, 2008.

  1. NewChickenMom

    NewChickenMom Chillin' With My Peeps

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    we started it about 6 weeks ago....

    i bought a 10x10 shed kit from home depot, we built the shed in about 2 weeks, i painted it, built the outside runs and my bf cut the holes out for each run. i helped him build the roof and then h promised he'd finish it the next weekend.... that was a month ago!!

    there's still felt and shingles to go on the roof, inidvidual coops to go on the inside and doors still need to get put on!!

    i cannot do these things myself, otherwise they'd be done. i've never used a table saw or any sort of saw, so i'm scared to cut the wood for the inside coops and i've never done shingles.

    any ideas for getting him off his booty and finishing the coop before snow comes??
     
  2. Buff Hooligans

    Buff Hooligans Scrambled

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    Whatever you do, don't nag him. Men do not like to be told what to do by a woman. It makes them do the opposite.

    Do what my mom did instead of nag my dad - she would pick up whatever tool(s) needed to finish a job (painting, repairing, wallpapering) and start to do it herself even if she had no idea what she was doing.
    When Dad noticed how badly she was doing it, he couldn't stand it and took over the job and finished it.
     
  3. BeardedChick

    BeardedChick Chillin' With My Peeps

    Trade him for something he'd really, really like. Wink wink, nudge nudge. [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG]

    Unfortunately, in my house, that would be brownies. [​IMG] [​IMG]
     
  4. RickiHupp

    RickiHupp Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Quote:Great advice!!!

    Or just say no more...ummmm....[​IMG]
     
  5. kinnip

    kinnip Chillin' With My Peeps

    Feb 24, 2008
    Carrollton, GA
    Move all chickens into the house.
     
  6. miss_thenorth

    miss_thenorth Chillin' With My Peeps

    Dec 28, 2007
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    What Buff said--get ready to do it yourself, ask him the proper way to do it, and get busy. Chancs are he will help, but if he doesn't--you learned a new skill.
     
  7. Chicken Salad

    Chicken Salad Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Quote:tsk-tsk. Young women today have no idea about how to manipulate their men to do their bidding. [​IMG]

    Go out there and start fooling around with the ecoutrements. Don't say ANYthing. Just go like you've made your mind up that anything HE can do, you can figure out how to do. He'll see you thrashing around and come (riding a white steed!) to the rescue. At least - that's the theory.

    Mind you, that doesn't work magically at my house. I have to endure a certain spectator who will not offer up help until I'm on my very last nerve. BUT...it gets done eventually.

    Plus, you might find that it's not necessarily rocket science and you can indeed do shingles, etc. Stuff I don't know - I "YouTube" and SOMEbody has made a video of it. [​IMG]
     
  8. derby

    derby Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Hey - if you have questions about felt or shingles -- just ask here! We'll help you!

    Derby
     
  9. Fudgie

    Fudgie Hatching Queen - Got Fudge?

    Quote:[​IMG] I love that idea. In my house you have to make dh feel so important. You have to say Honey, I am really worried about the chickens, if we don't get this house finished for them, they will freeze. Could you please help me get this done so I don't have to worry about them any more. It would mean so much to me if you would just do this for me. [​IMG] I know it is sickening [​IMG] . but boys will be boys and they like to feel important.

    However, my momma didn't raise a fool! She taught me to be self reliant and showed me how to use a hammer and a saw and a calk gun and an air gun and so on. She told me to NEVER leave yourself where you HAVE to rely on someone else (male or female) to help you. You can do anything you set your mind to. Go to the library and get a do-it-yourself book or look online there is the diy channel search for that and find out how to use the power tools.

    You can do it.

    tell DH if he does not help you, your BYC Peeps will come knocking down his door!!!! [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG](here we come!)
     
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  10. Indiana hens

    Indiana hens Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 25, 2008
    Pendleton, Indiana
    Ask contractors for a free estimate. i went for a roof repair estimate once for my old dental hygentist. She had been wanting a new house. I went to give the estimate and her husband came home for lunch. He was a contractor! Within a month they bought a new house. You can adjust this strategy to your own needs.
     

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