I decided that I was going to start giving people honest compliments, nothing excessive, just an acknowledgment of nice things about them. What I discovered is that most women can't take a compliment. This is what I get. Me: Jane, your dress looks nice Jane: Oh, no, it doesn't. I gained ten pounds. I have such problem keeping off the weight. Me: Um...Okay. No, I can't tell you gained weight. You look good. Jane: No, I don't. (and then starts a converstion in which Jane tells me all her faults and I reassure her) It seesm that many women in the world are so underconfident that instead of simply saying thank you they have to deny the compliment and then explain to me why my words were wrong. I could almost see if it was the physical compliments about dress or how nice someone's new hair cut looked but even nonphysical compliments like, I really love your sense of humor, or you are always so sweet to everyone, will earn an explanation of why my opinion is not correct. So, if someone compliments you, the polite answer is, thank you. Don't go into an explanation as to why the speaker's opinion is wrong. Even if you are very underconfident, it is a little arrogant to suppose that the other person cares about how inadequate that you feel or wanted to have to spend a few minutes reassurring you. It doesn't mean that you are self absorbed to simply accept a compliment with out making the speaker feel that you doubt their opinion. Guess what? Until I started trying to find ways to compliment people, I accepted compliments the exact same way also. But what I discovered is that now there is a gracious way to accept a compliment as well as give it. It makes the compliment giver feel good also to simply hear, thank you.