I'm so happy for you, oesdog! My uncle was severely disabled with schizophrenia and the toll it took on the family was a great one. It seemed no one wanted to help when we needed it most, so I can understand the feelings of hopelessness.
Unfortunately, in my experiences, many group homes out there are like the first one you described and walked away from. It is really sad, but I guess when there are no other options, people do what they have to do. I'm glad you may have found a better place for Danny! The second place sounds lovely!